- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Today I need to vent. Today I need to be a bit bitchy, and today I have decided to turn to the Hive because I have no one in person that needs to hear this as it is silly and just not worth me being annoyed about.
I have a friend who is a Bridesmaid or Best Man of mine. She has a friend from university who I met through her, but we are really just acquaintances. I do not really like this girl. I find her to be pretenious and very judgemental while at the same time she wants everyone to think she is not this way. We get along to please our mutual friend, but I would never just hang out with her, confide in her or call her up for any reason.
She started dating one of FI’s friends a few years ago after he chased her very hard, and she always said she never was into him. Then she hit 30 and started freaking out about babies and marriage so they settled down and bought a house. She is very controlling in this relationship, and my FI’s friendship with his friend has been seriously strained because she doesn’t like what they do when they get together. So they don’t anymore. I don’t really trust her, and I don’t see them working out, so this is influencing how I feel about the whole situation below.
We got engaged in February, and booked the wedding for Oct 2013. They got engaged 2 months later and planned for this October because she wants babies right away and he wants to be married first. Cool.
Months go by, October is getting closer and all of the guys (they have a group of 7 of them) are wondering what is going on with the wedding; are they invited, are they part of it? Finally all the girls start forcing the guys to ask the bride and groom because this is getting rediculous since they will need to save money if they are invited because it is a destination wedding. Finally, we hear through the grapevine that only one of the boys is invited at all, and he decides to decline because he is mad that all the boys were not given the courtesy to be informed. Then they invite my BM’s husband, and make it clear it is only because she is a Bridesmaid or Best Man. How rude! When he declines because he can’t get a week off work, she procedes to guilt him into going and won’t let it go. She didn’t even want him there in the first place!
The part that is really grinding my gears is everytime I see her she keeps sayng “I wish we could do the big wedding in Toronto and include all of our friends, but I like just having the small intimate wedding in Mexico”. And everytime I say, “that’s great for you guys, I am happy you are having the wedding you want”. BUT, she keeps saying it over and over, and is constantly apologizing for not “being able” to invite everyone, including all the boys. Every single time I see her! (that’s over 10 times at least)
I have had enough, and have said to her 3 times already “even if we were invited, we wouldn’t be able to come because it is in Mexico and we don’t have the money” (I’m in grad school so money is tight). She just isn’t hearing me and I don’t want to hear her say she isn’t “able to” because she is. She told me more than once they could afford a $50,000 wedding in Toronto (They are rather well-employed), but decided to do a destination so they didn’t have to have people there they didn’t want. WHAT? Why would you say that to someone who ISN’T invited. Ugh. I want to scream at her “I DON”T CARE ABOUT BEING AT YOUR WEDDING!!!”
The last straw is that our wedding is next Oct (2013) and she knows this as my Fiance will have her Husband involved in the wedding, but last ight she said “Instead of a honeymoon we will do a longer trip (3 weeks) next year to Vietnam and Thailand. The best time to go there is October.” I just looked at her and thought “Good, then I won’t feel bad about not having you at my wedding, since I don’t want you there anyway!”.
Hahaha okay, I am done. I just can’t stand this girl anymore and had to rant since I have to see her again today. There is more, but it is just as petty so I’ll stop. Thanks for letting me rant.