- 7 years ago
Okay – so I don’t want to trash my Fiance on a public forum, but I need to vent, so I went incognito. Also, I need to know if I am just being a major controlling bitch. Sorry if this is a little long
Basically, I went out for a few hours tonight (dress shopping!) and when I came home it was clear my Fiance was drunk. He hadn’t had a drop to drink before I left, so basically went from 0 to wasted in the 2.5-3 hours I was gone. He also did this one night last week, and a night a couple months ago. I go out, come home and he’s drunk. This REALLY bothers me. First of all, I think it’s a huge problem that he drinks to this extent alone. He claims he doesn’t realize how much he’s drank. He use to drink pretty heavily regularly so he had a higher tolerance. He’s still drinks a few beers a few days a week, but not nearly as much as he use to drink.
Anyway – I got really mad tonight. I had a bunch of stuff I had to do tonight and basically had to take care of all the stuff he was supposed to. He’s passed out in bed now and couldn’t even eat dinner. I told him no more drinking – at all – for at least a month.
Here’s the thing. He’s always drank, but he’s always had it under control totally. When we first started dating he would drink beer daily – usually 5-6. That sounds like a lot, but he was never drunk off of it and it never affected him. I also would see him not drink at all, sometimes for days at a time like if he was sick or something. Never had withdrawal, etc. So, I didn’t let it bother me. Now, he doesn’t drink daily as he often has to work until late at night. He works hard and he takes care of stuff around the house (laundry, cleaning, etc) because I in grad school full time. I don’t want to deprive him of a few beers to relax, but I don’t know what to make of this random binge drinking. He did apologize and he knows it’s wrong, but like I said before, it’s not the first time it happened.
So, what do I do? Am I making a big deal out of nothing? Should I accept he had one drink to many tonight and not worry about it since he wasn’t going anywhere and doesn’t have to be up early tomorrow? Or am I right to say no more drinking at least for a little while?