Post # 1
I’m hoping this is going to change, at which point I’ll be a much happier girl. In the last 4 months, my fiance and I got engaged (after 4 years), then his step-brother got engaged (after, like, 9 months maybe) and his little brother (who is 20) also got engaged.
We set our date for the fall after considering our friends weddings (that we’re in) and the arrival or my nephew in the spring.
When we heard that the step-bro and bro would be getting married in 2011, too, we told both of them and my FI’s dad and step-mom that we were already scheduled to be in weddings on 5/29 (our Best Man’s wedding) and 6/11 (my personal attendants wedding.)
I should also note that my fiance is to be his brother’s best man.
So, the dates of their weddings get scheduled.
Little bro: MAY 29!!!!!!
Step bro: JUNE 12!!!!!
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?! Not one, but two. AND, the weddings are in different towns. (5/29, one is in Southern Cal, the other in Northern; 6/11 one is in MN, the other in CA, making it impossible to hit both.)
I know it’s difficult to schedule a wedding, as I just went through it myself. But really, BOTH weddings conflict with weddings that my fiance and I are already commited to being in? I couldn’t be more frustrated.
Post # 3
That’s a tough one, however a compromise is a compromise. Therefore, I would attend my friends’ weddings and explain to your future brother-in-law the reasoning behind this. Also, if the date conflict had already been explained to your BIL and he didn’t care enough to make an effort to try to change the date, why should you….
Post # 4
Wow that sucks. Well I would say that since you are both committed to other weddings, and you made it clear to them (the brothers) that you were not available, you should honor your commitments. I would say that if it is so important for you to be at the brothers’ weddings they should have picked a different day. They made the decison for you, so it sucks for them.
Post # 5
Ugh! That is so annoying, especially since you were proactive and let them know in advance. I guess some people really don’t get that it’s not all about them.
(I guess the flip is that there are limited dates available for weddings, but come on…)
I would be majorly peeved.
Post # 6
@pinkbubblegum The ESPECIALLY FRUSTRATING thing is that for his bro, there are PLENTY OF DATES. (I looked up the availability online.) The place they’re looking at only books no more than six months in advance, so they would have their pick if they waited until August… OR there are no less than 15 OTHER Saturdays or Sundays between April and July. (Even one in May, if they have their hearts set on a May wedding.)