Need to vent: having a "Bride Wars" moment.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Move on. You’re planning a wedding; there are plenty of things you have to genuinely worry about, and your fiance’s friend who you’ve barely seen in years sharing your date probably isn’t one of them. Sure, the friend sounds like a shit, but the best choice is to rise above. If he’s really as bad as you say, he won’t have a lot of mutal friends left to attend his wedding anyway.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Get your Save the Dates or invites out sooner, other than that there’s not anything you can do about it. I’m sure from the sounds of this guy he won’t be walking down the aisle next year when he’s pretty much with 2 women!

Post # 5
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Sounds like you are way better off without them. True friends will come to yours. By the sounds of it, sounds like they may not end up actually getting married either. Just keep planning and move forward and don’t even think twice about them or the issue of potential guests not coming. Yours will turn out as expected, I’m sure. 

Post # 6
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858 posts
Busy bee

Hey one positive, you dont have to have him at your wedding!! I honestly wouldnt worry about it. Maybe its a blessing in disguise?!? and for the mutual friends, they will do what they feel is the best and hopefully either parties take that personally either!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

crisy003:  Well if you don’t think they’re actually going to make it down the aisle I don’t think you’ll have a problem!

Post # 8
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1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yeah, the other wedding sounds like a disaster!! But I could kinda see going to their wedding just to watch all the drama unfold.  J/K!! I’m sure all of your friends will go to your wedding.  Just to be on the safe side, send out your save the dates soon!!!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

crisy003:  I’d move the wedding up a week and don’t tell him. Most venues should accommodate 🙂

Post # 10
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134 posts
Blushing bee

Send out your STDs ASAP and get your FI to ask his groomsmen ASAP. Other then that there’s nothing else you can do so it’s no good to worry yourself about it. At least you have a pretty good excuse to not have to go to his wedding!! 😉

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Honestly, it sounds like you dodged a bullet.  He can’t bring his drama to your wedding.  Yay.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I agree with PPs, just get your STDs out ASAP. Too bad a pre-STD would be too weird since you won’t have your engagement session until the summer 😉 I think you will be fine as long as you get them out by the fall since your FI’s friend and his fiancee don’t sound like the most organized couple in the world..

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