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I think you are getting to overwhelmed. Nothing has happened yet. I think he may obide by your mother's request but if not, you should be happy. Don't feel jealous because your time will come. And you are not trying to steal her thunder, besides she should be all aglow that her daughter is getting engaged! You wil be fine, everyone is getting engaged and married, so don't think it will take away from you. You will have your time. Just make sure you seperate the days of the wedding. Now that would be a problem.
Try not to think about it--both proposals will happen as they are supposed to happen. It's hard not to be jealous, but if your mom's BF is surprising her, then she has no say as to when they get engaged. And I don't think that you getting engaged would be horrible. She's your mom, and she will get her time in the sun and she will be happy for you, no matter what.
Your mother's boyfriend may have no idea about your boyfriend's intentions to propose to you and when. It's great that you both have good men in your lives and hers is willing to ask you for permission!
It seems like you are jumping the gun a little here-nothing has happend on either side of the fence. If you both get engaged at the same time, well, I think that could be a really fun, unique experience to plan a wedding while your mom is planning hers. It isn't a competition-it's about the fact that both of you have great guys you want to spend the rest of your lives with. Don't forget that.
Ok so that anxiety is gone!! I just found out my bff who has been trying to have a baby for a year is PREGNANT!! today is the most exciting day!!! YAY!!! If only I had a bottle of champagne!!! I need to celebrate!
Oh well. My mom acts like that sometimes too and she and her bf have been together off and on for 9 freakin' years.
She said earlier when she thought my engagement was imminent (it is coming..but it didn't happen in march) that she and her bf might get married too!
I told her "no double weddings".
I also would have some question as to why after four months marry? Now I do realize that when we're older (hell I've just turned 40) that we don't date like when we were in our 20's for quite a few years before marriage, but four months is imho jumping the gun a bit. It took me a year or so before I really felt I knew all about T ya know?
Ok more to Vent about... I spoke to my mom's boyfriend last night and he is for certain going to propose this month, I asked him politely to speak to my man so that they aren't stepping on any toes. He said that he wanted to do that any way, I'm super happy about that now. However, now he wants to take my wedding date... Me and my man have already discussed and started planning a June wedding now my mom's boyfriend wants to take that too. I give up. I'm just going to run away and get married.
I mean I've been waiting for 2 1/2 year for this and they've only waited 4 months, sure why not go for it, you guys, I'm in the I don't give a crap mode.
Ugh that so sucks. Well he hasn't even talked to your mom about the date yet... maybe she won't like June? I'm not proud to admit it, but if I were you I would probably try a little scheming. Basically, I'd call your mom and start a convo about how you know your man is going to propose soon and you're so excited and you guys have already decided that you just HAVE to get married in June. She won't think anything is up because she doesn't know what her bf is planning, and then when he proposes and says June she will (hopefully) say oops buckwheatis is already getting married then, try again!
I think 4 months is jumping the gun a little, too, and they're not even having a short engagement! Talk to your mom about it when it happens. I bet she'll concede to have her wedding in August or something. I'd be hurt if my mom had suddenly decided to do that too. AND i'd be worried about her! Have you voiced your concerns to her? She may not listen, but still....sometimes I literally have to sit my mom down and say "listen...here's what I think...." and it sinks in eventually. I think it's a little selfish when it's your MOM stealing your date, not just a sibling or friend. Do you like her boyfriend? or do you think he's just being kinda selfish, too?
@ corgitale I'm starting to think I don't like June it's starting to feel a little crowded LOL, maybe I should just plan it for September or October.
@ ejs4y8. I used to like her boyfriend until now, I now I shouldn't just dislike him over this but I feel like he doesn't care about anything but himself. I've tried to sit and talk to my mom, but recently she is really hard to talk to, all she seems to care about is herself. I'm still hoping that he boyfriend listens to my request to talk to my man and make sure that he doesn't ruin our engagement.
Lately I'm so thankful that I found this website, I really don't know what I'd do without it. Everything I vent on here is what I used to vent to my mom about, but now that she doesn't listen.
@buckwheatis- that's funny because I feel like the fall is crowded! My idea time to get married would be september/october, but my brother is getting married in August and my FMIL is getting married in October, so it'd be a little squished.
Why not invite your mom and bf out to dinner and have a friendly discussion about all of this?
It does imho seem a bit rude to take the month you were planning to marry away since you were engaged first and have been for some time and that's the stance I'd take.
I'm so sorry that you're going thru this crazy mess. I really feel your pain!
Wow, that is a lot going on.
June just feels crowded to me now, since my mom and Chris want to get married in June, my bday is June, 3 of my best friends bday's are in June, we're actually all in the same week. Then I wanted to get married on the 19th of June, but I just don't know anymore.
Yeah I don't blame you. Bellenga stated it perfectly--you've been with this guy a very long time (muuuch longer than 4 months) and it's not fair. This is your mom, not a friend or someone who's other schedules are a no big deal thing. Surely your mom wouldn't concede to this? I'd be more concenred about my daughter than myself if i were her.
If you want to get married June 19, just stress to them that june 19 is your day and you'd appreciate it if they gav eyou a couple months before THEY ran down the aisle, too.
It's a pretty inconsiderate thing for this Chris guy to do. Maybe it's his true colors, eh? only 4 months...sometimes people can hide unsavory sides of themselves...
could they take june the following year instead?
re only being in a relationship 4 months: i don't know how old your mum / this guy are, but maybe as you grow older and know yourself better, it takes less time to know if something is going to work/not.
think of it this way: your mum will be busy so you get to plan YOUR wedding the way YOU want - without a ton of interference from her. (sorry if i'm projecting my own issues a bit here) but the point is maybe you can talk them into another time frame - your mum might be more willing to accomodate than chris - and she gets to have a say too.
Well it's official my Mother is engaged, I'm happy for her. I just hope she doesn't make a mistake and move to fast. :o)
She hasn't given any word on when the date will be. cross your fingers and pray that they will let me have my date. :o)
I say step up now and tell them that you have chosen x as the date and they have any other weekend of the year..maybe with a few weeks inbetween so you both can enjoy each other's weddings.
Crossing my fingers for you.
I would definitely let them know what date you are planning, now, before they confirm their date. If you have mentioned in the past, but you haven't said anything concrete, they might take that date. And you can't blame them-- from their perspective, they want to plan their wedding, and they probably won't avoid a date that you "may or may not" be thinking about.
Just give your mom a call & say "Hi! Guess what, the ring isn't official yet, but boyfriend and I are starting to plan and we've picked June 19th for sure! Now I just need to start looking at locations to make sure they aren't booked up!"
And take it from there! Once you've put it out there, she probably won't take your date.
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Ok my mom has seriously only been dating her bf for 4 months and he just asked me and my siblings our permission to ask her to marry him. Of course I said yes. But I can't help but feel a bit green with jealousy. I love the way my mom's man makes her feel like the only girl in the world, but they aren't without issues. Like the fact they've only known each other for 4 months. Another thing that makes me sort of angry is that she knows that my bf is going to propose this year possibly this month, we just don't know when, is it wrong for me to be angry and jealous??
I mean me and my man have been talking about getting married for over a year now, he's just waiting to surprise me. But what if my mom's bf pop's the question before my man gets to it?? Then it would look like I'm stealing my mom's thunder, and I don't want that, but I really want to be engaged and have my time in the sun.
I think I would feel better if my mom's man would do what my mom wanted and that is wait until I am engaged... but what if he doesn't??