Post # 1
I am a usual poster who went “undercover” for this post. I needed to vent about this situation and get the hive’s advice. I don’t want to give too much information for personal reasons and to stay anonymous.
Situation: I am invited to a wedding later this year. This will be the bride’s second marriage. I have nothing at all against second marriages and am happy for her. Her first wedding was fully funded by her parents only a few years ago and they are still paying for it. She is now expecting her father to do the same (things have changed and he is not in a position to do so). She has invited over 200 people to this wedding now but has told the caterer that only 100 people will be coming. The caterer charges per person and brings enough food as you pay for. Therefore 100 of the guests will not be eating. Also, the caterer does the seating at the venue, and to cut costs she has decided to not have seats and to simply serve nachos and chicken wings for an evening black tie wedding. The other day we got invitations for a party to help stock her bar. I found this upsetting. She cannot even provide food or seats, at her wedding but expects us to pay for the alcohol and get her a gift? Thanks for letting me vent…I just feel like she’s making a mockery out of this whole thing.
Post # 4
Definitely don’t go. Or if you do, eat dinner beforehand
Post # 5
I wouldn’t go. It’s surely going to be a disaster.
Post # 6
I’d go to see the nightmare, but I’m mean like that!
(But I would be “busy” for this stock-the-bar party. And she’d be getting a modest gift that covered whatever my plate costs.)
Post # 7
We are having served apps, a full sit down dinner, and beer and wine. But we did have a “stock the bar” party instead of a bridal shower. I hope that isn’t tacky :-/. I thought it was a really fun idea! This girl is definitely in over her head and needs a reality check. I wouldn’t go!
Post # 8
Hell to the no. Send a card and save yourself the trip.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Oh man, that is such a train wreck.
I think you should go- eat first, of course, and wear really comfortable shoes, but it sounds like that’s going to be the worse reception ever- it’s awful, but I’d kind of like to watch the Titanic go down! :)-
(and I would also be busy for the bar party)
Post # 10
I would definitely go. But I would:
1. Eat a nice hearty dinner beforehand;
2. wear an old bridesmaid dress or something like that that you don’t care about (just in case);
3. Get quietly rip-roaring drunk on self-provided booze; and
4. Bring a video camera.
It will be like Survivor, but with formalwear. Can you imagine watching people fighting over chairs and chicken wings in tuxes??! It could be the event of the century!
Post # 11
@bookworm88: haha I was going to say I would go just to take photos of the mess and confusion. LOL I am a mean girl I guess. LOL
Post # 12
I’m with you. I’d almost HAVE to go to this one just to watch the show.
Post # 13
@bookworm88: LOL yes, a small part of me would love to see the drama unfold.
Post # 14
Haha thanks for all the responses! Unfortunatley I HAVE to go as there is not a choice or I would definetly not be going… a friend of mine had a funny suggestion to pull up outside and sell hotdogs…we could make a killing!
@alexandra–no thats not “tacky” what is bad is having this, two bridal showers and not even properly hosting your wedding. When you already did this less than 5 years ago… like C’mon.
Post # 15
Sounds like this girl has no grasp on reality. How can she think this OK? I would NEVER expect my father to pay for a second wedding to begin with, let alone if he is still paying off the first one. And how can she not see that if she has to cut corners by way of reducing food and seats that it means she should probably have a considerably smaller wedding. I’m sorry to be catty, but I’m willing to bet that she probably has a gorgeous, expensive, brand new dress too.
Post # 16
I’d bring seltzer water to the “stock the bar” party.
and I love nachos so I’d use that as an excuse to attend this trainwreck.
Disclaimer – I am the old, crotchety one on the boards. Take any advice I give with a grain of salt