Post # 1
I’m new to the board and have been visiting and reading since my fiancé surprised me with a proposal accompanied by a gorgeous ring at the end of October. I’m now trying to figure out what wedding bands I should consider.
He he did an amazing job all on his own without much input from me at all. While I thought something might be up when he confirmed my favorite cuts in September, I was stunned when he presented me with this ring which he designed himself after researching and then sourcing the stones.
My engagement ring is not what I would have expected, but I love it and think it’s gorgeous. It’s three stones- two emeralds cut sapphires surronding an asscher cut diamond, bot cuts I’ve always loved.
Here are the rest of the details- the center stone is an E, IF, asscher cut of 4.5 carats, the sides are just a tad over three carats, emeralds cut, Ceylon sapphires of deep blue of exceptional clarity (I remember him saying something like that but as you can imagine my head was pretty buzzy when he was telling me details later that day). My ring size is 4 1/4. It’s a lot, but it think he’s designed it so it’s somehow not too overwhelming.
We’ll use the same jeweler to design the wedding band, however I’m not sure what I’d like. My first instinct is to get a plain band. Just something slim and simple. However, he is inclined to do a band with diamonds- maybe asscher cuts in a size small enough that they enchance the engagement ring while still fitting on my finger. I want to take his thoughts into consideration as he did such a great job designing it, but I’m having a hard time conceiving the options and what would look good. I thought I would become a Bee and see if you, as you are such informed experts, have any thought.
Please share your thoguhts, ideas and, of course any pics- whether you have something similair or just for ideas and fun!
And please forgive me if I placed the images wrong and I hope it’s not distorted. It’s my first time! Thanks!
Post # 3
Like you, my first instinct is to go with a plain band. Especially if you want to wear both rings together. If it were me, I would get an asscher band, but I would wear the rings on separate fingers (WB on left hand, ER on right hand).
Very beautiful ring, by the way! Welcome and Congratulations!
Post # 4
@SunflowerGarden: Thanks! And thanks especially for the warm welcome! I like your idea of wearing the band on a separate hand. I am going to give this more thought. I’ve seen women that do that and I think it looks elegant.
I also went ahead and added a few more pics without the flash. I think the flash can make it look a little distorted. Well, that and my bad iPhone photography! Ha!
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@Badatusernames: WOW your ring is so different and beautiful!! I went through a similar struggle when looking for a wedding band. I was torn between a simple band and a large eternity band that would put my e-ring/wedding band total carat at over 9 carats. I made several trips to the jewelers and tried on the 2 options over and over. I think that is the best thing you can do. It took many trips, but I kept falling in love with the eternity band.
Try on some options and go with what you feel most comfortable with! Good luck!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I have no idea what to suggest, just wanted to say you are a lucky lady!
Post # 9
pretty ring and you have really pretty hands!
Post # 10
@canarydiamond: Thank you! This is almost exactly what he’s thinking of- thanks for the link.
Post # 11
@NYBride_421: I am nervous about upping the carat count by much more. Although I live in DC, I’m unsure if I’m going to feel comfortable among the extended family in Nebraska. And I work in a business where I do a lot of meetings with clients. I’m not that interested in what others think, but too much sparkle could be off putting- haha!
Thanks for the advice. Even though I’m not a fan of jewelry stores, I think I really do have to just go around and try on bands. Imaginatigon will only take me so far. I may also consider a band that incorporates sapphires just to throw some other ideas into the mix. I know there are probably combos I haven’t yet considered so I’ll try them and then just go where my heart leads me.
And thanks for your compliments @oishiioishii and @meifrancis! And I do feel really lucky- the thought he out into the ring bodes well for the future.
Post # 12
@Badatusernames: Wow, that’s amazing! I’d go with super thin (2mm or less), and plain, since you have thin fingers and don’t need more finger coverage. Congrats!!
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Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Badatusernames: I agree with getting whatever kind of band you like and wearing this on your right hand. Anything else might just be too much for one finger. Beautiful ring!
@HannahGrace: a little harsh, dude. It’s a legitimate issue – what to pair with such a big honkin ring. Big-ringed ladies can have problems they need help solving, too. Not a very nice welcome to a new poster 🙁
(Not that I’m one of them, I have a 0.7 center stone, lol.)
Post # 15
I would go with a plain thin band just so your e-ring can be the rockstar….and even still I don’t know that I would wear the wedding band all the time. Just let that e-ring shine! 🙂
Post # 16
Is go with a small asscher eternity band and that’a ALL I’d wear when in Nebraska.