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Together with their parents
Bride
and
Groom
request the honor of your presence
I would do what angela suggested, 'Together with their parents". It gives people credit where it is deserved but doesn't leave anyone out.
Take a look at this blog post...
from offbeatbride.com
It's appropriately called wedding invitation wording that won't make you barf. :)
Actually, those offbeatbride.com wordings do make me ... well, gag, anyway. Unless the bride and groom are trying to show that they are more joyously laughing and loving than the next couple; all those over-flowery "joyous hearts" and "living, laughing, dreaming, loving" goes without saying at a wedding. I can assume that. What I need to know is, do I need to wear silk and pearls or a cotton expedition skirt; should I have dinner before I come or will there be a meal; who's getting married so I can figure out where to send the wedding present; and who's hosting so I know where to send my thank-you note after the party and who to mention things to if I see the hotel's busboy trying to make out with the junior bridesmaid in the coatroom.
And hosting is NOT all about who's paying. It's about who's taking responsibility for looking after the guests' comfort during the party. The paying stuff should all go on behind the scenes so that we guests don't have to be exposed to the vulgarity of public money discussions.
Anyway, the most traditional wording in a situation where the bride has no relative to step up and act as hostess is:
Miss Bride's name
requests the honour of your presence
at her wedding to
Mr Groom's name
(that's because traditionally a man and woman who weren't married to each other weren't supposed to co-host things; and because if they were both independent adults people knew who they were in the community without mentioning their parents)
The modern equivalent that allows the bride and groom to co-host and acknowledges that mobility has left people so spread-out across the globe that people might NOT know who you are if you don't mention parents is:
(Ms or Miss, if you are being formal) Bride’s name
Daughter of Mr and Mrs Bride’s parents
and
(Mr) Groom’s name
Son of Mr and Mrs Groom’s parents
request the honour of your presence at their wedding ...
Try to include mention of parents, but don't start with bride's parents request...that makes it sound as though they are paying for/hosting.
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How do we word our invitations?
Fiance and I are paying for our wedding. His parents gave us a generous $ gift to go towards the wedding. My parents did not contribute any funds.
I was thinking of wording it as
Bride and groom
Request the honour of your presence
At their wedding on….etc.
However, I don’t want to offend his parents. His mom is expecting for our wedding invites to be “old school”
Parents of the bride
Request the honour of your presence
At the marriage of their daughter
Bride’s name
To
Groom’s name
Son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s parents
But I think that’s not appropriate either because my parents aren’t technically hosting the wedding.
Any suggestions? Thanks, bees!