Need your help bees!! feel sick :(

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Honestly, how I see it is, if your ready to be married then you shouldn’t be scared of causing conflict. If they get upset then oh friggin’ well shit happens and they will get over it. It’s not their decision on when you guys should get married, it’s yours!


Post # 4
3519 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@JazzieB:  you could always go the traditional route and have your Fi ask your dad for your hand in marriage.  Might be a good opportunity for them to discuss your plans man to man.

Post # 5
1589 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe a big family dinner in a restaurant and hope that the moms feel the need to behave appropriately in public and a large group. 

that doesn’t mean that they won’t be ugly about it later, but that sounds like it may happen no matter how you break it. 

Post # 6
1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@fascinated:  Her FH’s mum lives in a different country, that could prove difficult.

If you feel you’re ready now, what’s the problem? You’re paying for everything on your own, doing it how you want to do it, there shouldn’t be an issue. I say go for it, and if there really is a problem, it isn’t with you guys. Of course you want to be married now, and you want all your loved ones there, but if they can’t accept that, then they can’t accept that. They’ll come around on their own.

A lot of people marry young. Do whatever you like, it’s your life! Good luck!

Post # 7
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Are you financially dependent on them in any way at ALL? If so, even if it’s just a cell phone bill or something, I would make it clear to them that now you are an adult, you are married, and you are now responsible for yourself and switch over the bills, etc. to your name.

If you are not dependent on them, then I would just calmly tell them that you two feel it’s the right choice, and move on.

Post # 9
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@JazzieB:  I think it’s better to share the news separately if you expect anything but 100% happy, excited reactions. It sounds like both of your mothers are going to have complicated reactions and I think they’d appreciate having the space to talk without the other person parents present/listening. 

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