Post # 1
So, we’ve been invited to the beach with the ILs next month. The plan was to go up Thursday eveningish (after work….it’s about four hours away) and stay until Sunday. Now, here comes the tricky part. A ticket just became avaliable for a concert I really want to go to. It’s that same Thursday night. So I would go to the concert (which is about halfway to the beach) and then continue on to the beach. Basically I’d be there later Thursday night. So instead of being there at like 6ish, I’d be there at like midnightish.
However, this is an issue because DH feels like if I go, the ILs will be mad and he says I’ll have to explain my decision to everyone. On one hand, I really want to go, on the other I don’t want everyone mad at me. Yet, I feel like I can’t make my own decisions without weighing out how the ILs will feel about every situation and it frustrates me to no end. I want to go and have fun with them but I don’t want to feel pressured into it, which is what I’m feeling.
Post # 3
Why would they be mad? As long as you aren’t waking them up and there aren’t any important plans that night, you should go!
Post # 4
I’d go to the concert. It will just make you a few hours later and you still get to spend the whole weekend with them. If they get pissed about that, I honestly wouldn’t care about keeping them happy.
Post # 5
Go to the concert! If they gripe when you get there, just emphasize how happy you are to have the whole weekend ahead to spend with them 😉
Post # 6
It seems like the best of both worlds. You’ll still be able to spend the entire weekend at the Beach House with the IL and see this concert you’ve been dying to see! (Which one is it, if you don’t mind me bein nosey)! Haha.
It’s nothing for them to get worked up and be pissed about unless you all already have plans Thursday night.
Post # 7
I don’t see why they would be mad, you’d only get there 4 hours later. It’s not like the concert is Friday night and you wouldn’t cut your visit short by a full day.
Post # 8
Do they have specific plans for everyone that Thursday evening, or does it just happen to be the time that they’re heading up? I think it would make total sense to say it was a great deal to go to the concert on the way. If you’ve already agreed to, say, a nice dinner together the first night at the beach, though, it would be different.
Post # 9
@beekiss: As long as I know, there are no plans for that night.
To everyone else: Unfortuanatly, I think I have to give up the concert….which sucks. But I know I’m going to be resentful and I suck at faking it.
Post # 10
WHY do you have to give it up?? I don’t understand…its not like there are plans that night, what difference does it make if you are there a couple hours later? You would probably get there just to go to sleep anyway