Weddingbee boards

My MOH, my sister, will be ~7 months pregnant at the time of our wedding.  I am happy for her, but sad for me.  As selfish as it sounds, I didn't want a pregnant BM/MOH, but things happen and I'm fine with it now. 

The problem that persists is she will be in her 3rd trimester and it is possible her Ob/Gyn will not allow her to fly so late in the pregnancy -- it's about a 6 hour flight. I am not sure what to do.  Should I keep her in the wedding party and hope she is able to make it?  Or chose someone else?  If she isn't able to make it we probably wouldnt know until a month before the wedding and everything would be printed at that point with her name on it as MOH and I wouldn't be able to find another dress if I wanted a replacement. 

What should I do?  What would you do?

How sad you sister may not be able to make it!  I was going to say the exact same thing as tigs_pal about checking with the OB-GYN.  And if she can't make it at the last minute, can you pick one of your BMs to be  a "back-up" MOH?  Even if it doesn't match the program, you can just spread the word that your sister couldn't make it because of the pregnancy. 

thanks for your advice ladies.  It will be very sad if she cannot make it.  She did mention that she would be ok with not being in the wedding party, but I cannot imagine it without her in it. I will have her check with her Ob/Gyn at her next appt.  My other sister can be the back-up MOH (she's currently a BM) but then the wedding party will be uneven... but I guess at that point an uneven wedding party will be the least of my worries! 

I'm in the same boat as you!  My best friend/MOH (who, to me, is the most important guest, even above my mother!) will be 37 weeks pregnant by our wedding, and definitely won't be able to fly up for the wedding.  I was crushed when I heard this news a few weeks ago.  It's weird to be simultaneously painfully disappointed for me and absolutely thrilled for her.  (Thankfully, she understands completely!)  Though she won't be at our wedding, she's still the most important lady in my life and will be keeping her MOH title.  So, essentially, I'll have no MOH at the wedding, but it's more important to me that she retain that title.  She'll make it up for my shower in June and we plan to spend some extra time together -- showing her the venue, doing some sightseeing, etc so she can feel a part of our wedding day, even though she won't be there.

The only advice I can give is, like others mentioned, to talk to her.  While I have no intentions of asking my MOH to step down, it was still immensely helpful for us to talk about it all.  I was able to be honest (though careful and gentle) in saying things like, "You know how excited I am for you, but I can't help but be disappointed -- I can't figure out how to reimagine our day without you there!"  By being noncritical, genuinely excited, and honest about your feelings, your open line of communication should (hopefully) lead to you an answer for your situation.  I just decided that no matter what, I was going to be happy for her because it's an immensely joyful time.  She's going to be pregnant and have the baby no matter what, so there was no sense in me holding a grudge or being sad for any longer than I could control!  I still have moments when I think, "Oh, MOH should be the person to help me with my veil or hand me FI's ring, etc, but she won't be there."  It's definitely disappointing, but it gets better with time, of course!

UPDATE: just found out, per doctor's advice, my sister will not be able to make it to the wedding.