(Closed) Need YOUR opinion…good idea or not?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Should I do the time capsule?
    Yes! Have guests fill out letters when they arrive. : (22 votes)
    42 %
    Yes! Have guests write letters before hand. : (5 votes)
    9 %
    Yes! Have guests write it before hand & stuff out at the wedding. : (13 votes)
    25 %
    No! It seems like too much work. : (13 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Do you want all your guests do this? or just a few?

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would only ask close family and friends to do this, if I were going to do the same thing. Like, parents, grandparents, siblings, best man/maid of honor. I wouldn’t ask everyone to do that. I think people will forget to write it or forget to bring it with them. Also…if they’re not really, really close to you, it might be hard for them to come up with a whole letter’s-worth of things to put into the letter. They might feel awkward about it (I would).

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee

    As an alternative you could have notecards with the guestbook and they can optionally write a note to you.  Put a sign up telling them what it is and a timecapsule item they can slide it into.  I think its a nice idea, as long as its optional. For people like your grandparents I think its perfectly OK to ask them if they got a chance to do it and if they didnt bring them a card to ensure they did write you a note.

    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think it’s a great idea, it’s just in how you present it.  I think writing “note” instead of letter makes it less intimidating for the guests.  Maybe tell the close family in advance, if they want to write something more thoughtful, and then have notecards out at the wedding for everyone else.  There’s often downtime at a wedding while waiting for food, or sitting out a dance, or whatever.  People can use that time to fill out the notecards.

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    what a unique idea! I’d think that you could have stationary and pens available at each seat, and while the guests are waiting, or at some point during the reception, just ask them to drop it in the box on their way out. There will be plenty of opportunities to fill it out during the day, so just leave it there for them and they’ll probably get to it.

    You could also make it easier and do a “preformatted” letter, kinda like “mad libbs” where they fill in the blanks. You could have questions like, “Where do you see us in 10 years?” How many kids do you think we’ll have?” “What will our house look like?”, etc.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think it is nice to allow people some time to reflect on what the want to say to you on this special occasion, especially when they are being asked to put it into writing.  Send a request (maybe not on a formal invitation) asking guests to write a letter before the ceremony and then have supplies available for those who may have forgot to bring theirs along.  Also, maybe just ask those who are most important to you.  Your grandparents, parents, sibling, best friends, etc.  If it was me, I wouldn’t ask all of my guests to write letters. I’d only ask the ones who were central to the day.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Yeah…. i think it’s great for close family and friends, but I would find it really odd if I was invited to like, a coworker I’m not that close with’s wedding and was given a homework assignment like that.  It makes me think they’re expecting a lot more then “All the best to you and your new husband in the future.  Thanks so much for letting us share your day.  SapphireSun”  Which I’m just not sure I have it in me to think of something meaningful and touching for Dave in accounting.

    However, in my area 700 person weddings are fairly common, and I go to a lot of wweddings of people I don’t actually really know.  If yours is more intimate maybe “Dave from Accounting” wouldn’t be invited to yours?

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    That sounds great! : ) Maybe you can do it instead of a guest book, and encourage people to write the letters that way?

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee

    What I think would work better, is having the letters written at a cocktail hour or the reception. You can announce at the ceremony that you would like guests to do this. Upon exiting you can give them a note card or something to fill out while they wait during pictures and for you to arrive at dinner. At that point, they could all put their letters/advice/comments in the time capsule. I think you’ll get more letters this way as guests will have actual tables to write on.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We are doing something similiar except we are going to put number on the outside of each envelope, and those numbers coincide with our anniversaries.  Every year on our anniversary we’ll open the cooresponding envelope.  Since we’re having a small event (60 guests including children), we don’t need a guest book to know who was there.  We are going to give parents and grandparents “big” anniversaries.  I know these notes will be cherished forever, especially after they are gone.  We are going to be putting this out at the cocktail hour with a sign explaining the idea and the process.  We may also ask all the kids to draw us a picture as something to keep them entertained.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    When I go to a wedding, I want to have fun.  Writing assignments are not fun.   Sorry. 

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