Wise Bees: Need your perspective

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Jinxy:  I would say “So I’ve been thinking about the girls’ week, and if I have to choose between going to that and going on vacation with you, I’d rather go with you. Were you thinking of going on vacation any time soon or will my pocket book be able to recover from the girls’ week before we do anything expensive?” Make it about the timing of the vacation, not the proposal/ring.

Post # 4
Hostess
9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Jinxy:  i second @Nostawyn:‘s suggestion.

‘I’ve been thinking about the trip with the girls, and I’d like to go, but if I can only go on one trip this year I’d rather go with you’

Post # 5
Member
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Nostawyn:  +1 

Your convo should 100% be about the vacation time/money because in reading your post that seems like what your real question is about, not about a proposal.  He might not have any intention of proposing on vacation, so regardless of if you go with him / with GF’s it might not happen at that time. 

Post # 6
Member
2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I fail to see what either of these possible vacations has to do with a proposal? If you don’t want to push him about a proposal, don’t bring it up. Ask him about the vacation only.

Post # 9
Member
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@Jinxy:  Not sure if you’re still looking for answers but I like the previous idea of mentioning the cost of two vacations (might also give a hint as to whether he’s saving for a ring). Perhaps asking about other events that might line up with a wedding can give you a sneaky timeline Lol. Its possible to broach the timeline subject head on without putting too much pressure on him as long as you’re relaxed during it. This all depends on how sensitive he is and what option feels more comfortable for you 🙂 

oh and nothing wrong with being a bit of a control freak! (Like me) lol

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