Post # 1
Ok first off there are two things to mention…
1. I rarely write on here because I can usually search subjects to find what I need.
2. I realize there are brides (and people in general) have way way more problems than I will ever have, and I am not trying to say I have it bad…just need a boost from fellow brides.
Ok, that being said… My wedding is in 18 days! The problem is I really do not feel like it has “hit me” I mean I am excited but it doesn’t seem like I will really be putting my dress on and walking down the aisle. One of my friends thinks it may be due to a long-ish engagement so it has been so far away for so long that it has not hit reality yet. Like many others, we purchased a house during our engagement and that mixed with wedding planning just costs too darn much! But I think 99% of us have money stress so…moving on J Last Friday we had to bury one of our best friends, a friend that was excited for our wedding and would have been the life of the party. I am having a very hard time realizing he will not be there. I keep going over my RSVP list and see his name and I just want to stop doing anything wedding. I just cannot get motivated after the funeral! My fiancé does not understand why I just have no wedding motivation, since I am the bride and all. Getting back to work yesterday (Monday) helped to get back to reality until we got home last night and learned my FFIL was taken to the hospital with chest pains. We want to be there so bad but we are three hours away. I have just hit a wall with wedding items and need a little boost. So if you any encouraging words or advice, I appreciate it all!
Thank you in advance!
Post # 3
I can understand hitting the wedding wall. My wedding is Friday and I hit that wall a couple weeks ago. The whole bride thing hasn’t hit me yet either. Even getting my whole “look” together I didn’t get emotional or anything. It’s really weird. I do keep getting the moments where I’m all “holy crap I’m getting married in a week” and then it goes away quickly. I have a feeling I’m going to end up being a wreck on Friday.
As much as you don’t want to do anything wedding related, work on something, even if it’s small. You don’t want to be overwhelmed the week of.
Post # 4
Hugs for you and I will keep you in my prayers. So sorry you are going through these things. I believe things will get better and be alright and when your wedding day arrives, try to remember the point of it all is that you get to marry to greatest love of your life. I know it must be hard but try to stay focused on that and push through 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
That’s awful. Take a few days off from planning for some needed time to grieve and don’t feel bad about it. I know 18 days is going to fly by but trying to work yourself through the grief while wedding planning is only going to make it take longer. You don’t have to get over his death in the next 18 days. Give yourself a day or two off from planning and then dive back in, maybe plan something special to commemorate your friend’s life that way you feel like he was still a part of your day.
Post # 6
You definitely have a lot going on and losing a close friend who would be at your wedding must be so difficult. Take some time for yourself if you can just to grieve. I’m sure once your big days arrives it will hit you and besides everyone feels things differently!!
Post # 7
Hearing that you feel the same help alot, thank you!! I hope your day is amazing, as I am sure it will be!!!!
Everyone else, thank you so much for your words. I think it just helped to have someone to let it out to, I guess why this site is so popular!! Thank you all again!
Post # 8
i am sorry to hear for your loss and i won’t say i udnerstand what you’re going through because i don’t. just try to be strong and realize that god wouldn’t put you through anything you cant handle. you seem to be very strong in how your dealing with this, so continue that. use your day of love for you and your fiance and also a celebration for your friend who passed. it might help if you plan a way to honor his memory on your day, it might bring you some happy feelings that you can continue to talk about and plan until your big day! good luck!