Post # 1
so the questions is…what should me and my SO register for if we have everything we need? our apartment that we’ve lived together in for 3 years *and plan to stay in for several more to save money* provides us with all major appliances: dishwasher, washer, dryer, fridge, stove, etc. and the rest of our apartment is fully furnished. we could register for towels? rugs? knick-knacks here and there? but i have a LARGE family, and we have a ton of friends attending…so i know there isn’t enough things to be registered for.
with that being said, would it sound awful if we asked for gift cards to certain stores (like home depot or lowes…to maybe help put towards an appliance for the future? or cash/check donations? i hope this isn’t going to come off as shallow or absurd, but we honestly have it all since we’ve lived together for so long. the wedding is also just shy of being paid off (we lack the last payment to our venue manager), so we wouldn’t need anything put towards that.
i’ve asked my parents and they’re just as lost as we are. please…any suggestions would be helpful and greatly appreciated!!!
Post # 3
@K.Obena09: We were hoping to register at Lowe’s, but the stores in my area discontinued in-store registries. However, we did receive multiple gift cards though since I had Lowe’s listed as one of the places we registered. Another place you might want to consider is Sears, since they have appliances. Many times if you register for something large, your guests will just give you a gift card towards a larger gift. Good Luck!
Post # 4
Its always a fine line when going the non-registry route. It really depends ! If most people are aware that yall have your own place, then it would probably make sense if you tastefully requested gifts in different forms.
I’m having the same dilemma. We have a furnished house and won’t be in dire need of big ticket items.
Donations in your name to a favorite charity?
Post # 5
@K.Obena09: I would just keep your registry of physical items really small — if everything gets bought, people are pretty likely to then just give you gift cards from the stores you registered at, or ask your parents/friends what you want, and then they can spread the word that you’d like gift cards.
Post # 6
@K.Obena09: I’m not sure about the appliance places, but we registered at Belk and they had a gift card option. I think it’s a good option if you’re not sure what you want to buy!
Post # 7
@melisslp: actually i was thinking that too. i should research this, but maybe i can put a memo in our registry that says “we are saving up for this item, and any contributions is greatly appreciated!)
@Eva Peron: ugh yes..i saw a letter a fellow bee posted about how some gal had wanted others to fund her destination wedding. now THAT was out of line. besides my grandparents gift of a small amount towards our honeymoon, me and SO are paying for this by ourselves. so maybe i should register at a couple of places, and put a memo in the invite saying “any cash or check donations will assist in our honeymoon fund and are welcomed!” ??? wording is so hard when you’re trying to please everyone haha.
@laurelina: i love that idea too!!
@MrsCoachBtoBee: i believe sears has that option. i attended a bridal shower years ago, and they had registered for several things, and put down “gift cards of any amount are lovely”.
Post # 8
@K.Obena09: Gift cards aren’t a bad idea, but you can always upgrade your things depending what stage of life you’re in (more than capable yourself vs poor college student). I would register for good linen sets, definitely good towels, and maybe do some gift cards.
Post # 9
@strawberryavalanche: ah yes…cant forget sheets, maybe a new comforter?, and yes towels. it just came to me that even if we DO register for other items like that, we could always save it for when we get a bigger place…or when the things we have now wear out. THANK YOU!!!