Post # 1
So my Fiance and I both work full time, he works nights and I work days. We get to see each other on weekends and in the morning and evening too, so it works out rather well. But at night I still get few hours of alone time, and same with him in the morning. But he recently had surgery (nothing to serious) but hes off work for the next month or longer. 3 weeks have gone by, and I love seeing him lots, but I feel like I need some me time! He get the apartment to himself all day and it makes me alittle jealous. But how to I get across to him that I need some time alone, to maybe go for a walk, go shopping or just watch a movie alone. I feel like he might get offended. Help Bees!
Post # 3
Maybe instead of coming right home from work, you can just give him a call/text and let him know you’re stopping by the mall.
This is a pretty natural feeling. Fiance and I don’t live together yet, but I know that once we do we will need our alone time. He’s busy tonight and even though we don’t see eachother all that often, I’m still relishing my Friday night of TLC/Slice shows and bubble baths. You don’t have to tell your fiancé you need the time away from him. Just take the time. He’ll be better off for it, because you’re more likely to come back refreshed and full of love for him 🙂
Post # 4
@grapefruitgal: I agree with this – you don’t have to explain to him that you need the time, just take it (unless he starts complaining or resisting your efforts to take the time for yourself – then I guess maybe you’d have to have a talk). Just do what you want to do after work and text him to let him know you’re doing some shopping, getting your nails done, etc., and will be home in a few hours.
Post # 5
How about having an honest conversation with him about what you need? I think not actually being upfront about it is a passive-agressive cop-out, honestly. Relationships can’t work if your partner doesn’t learn how to read you – and this is a really important thing. Him knowing when to give you space and when it’s ok not to is critical!!
For example, when I feel like you do, I gently mention it to him. If there’s a weekend coming up, he makes plans with some friends for an evening so I can have some time to myself. And vice versa. If he needs time, I make plans. It’s about respecting him enough to be honest, and about being honest in a loving way.
Post # 6
When I got home from work, I told him I want some time time alone cause I had a tough day at work and just needed some me time. He was totally ok with it. He understood. Sometime I overthink things and he said if I need any alone time, just go and have it!!
I dont need to ask his permission or anything lol.
Post # 7
I’m the same way. I think it’s how we’re wired… not a bad thing! I need space from Darling Husband frequently. Due to stress or whatever is going on.