Post # 1
I’m new to the site so hello!
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 5 years now and we have been talking about getting married soon, as in next year.
We have been looking for rings so we will hopefully be engaged soon!
Thing is, we are both somewhat young (I’m 21 and he’s 24) so I have no idea what I’m doing pretty much.
I don’t have anyone to help me right now since I’m living in Australia with my boyfriend (that is where he’s from).
Anyway, I would be having less than 50 people, probably closer to 30, so it will be very small! We are on a tight budget so I am trying to find something that is beautiful, but also not too expensive. We will be having the wedding/reception on Long Island in NY as that’s where I’m from.
I guess that’s pretty much it for information, but any tips are appreciated as I could use ALL the help I can get haha.
Post # 3
I also had a small wedding (about 30 too) and the suggestion I have for you is to have your wedding reception in a restaurant with private rooms. They are a lot cheaper and they will take care of all the silverware, plateware, service, food, everything so you do not need to stress out about renting chairs, and everything to set up a reception.
Also, they will have a list of vendors such as flowers, hotels, etc. that if you use them will give additional discount and you know they are reliable in providing the services.
Post # 4
What kind of budget are you looking at dollar wise?
Post # 5
step one, figure out a budget. once you have a budget, you know what you can spend on each part of the wedding (ceremony, reception, flowers, dress, photos, honeymoon, etc)
step two, start doing research for locations. think outside the box. (long island is expensive. you probably know that, but i’m just saying)
@KS240030: none off the “preferred vendors” i chose gave discounts. is this really a thing? i’ve never heard of that.
Post # 6
Welcome to the bee!!! There are lots of budget bees on here, so I hope this website is helpful. I also really like apracticalwedding.com for budget brides.
I woudl say that the first thing to do is sit down with your fiance and talk about priorities. What’s really important to you? Really nice flowers? Killer food? Partying all night long? Pictures? A particular ceremony?
Priorities are different for every couple, and that is the way it should be! But it’s important to think about and agree upon. And write it down! That way you can refer back to this when you’re debating about spending double the amount on chairs so you can get fancy chiavaris – if guest comfort was a priority and chairs and the look of the reception hall when empy was not a priority – you probably don’t need chiavari chairs. It’s very easy to get sucked up into the wedding planning miasma where you think you just have to have all these things and they all have to be really nice, and it’s nice to go back and remind yourself what is really important.
Next – budget. You and your fiance need to figure out how much you can reasonablyt spend on the wedding without going into debt or causing yourself too much strain. Wedding planning can be a stressful time and you don’t need the added stress of trying to stick to a unattainable month budget. Once you have figured out how much you can potentially save for the wedding, you and your fiance need to talk about how much you’re comfortable spending. For us, financially we could have spend more on our wedding than we did, but we just weren’t comfortable spending that much. Once you decide that you’re comfortable with a certain amount it makes it easier to stomach some of the costs since you know you already agreed to it.
So the big thing that will work against you, cost wise, is location. Long Island is probably super expensive. Is there a more rural location that you could use? I saved a lot by moving my wedding from a big city to a small town. And if you’re planning from Australia, it’s all going to be long distance anyway. But if it is going to be in Long Island, start looking at alternative venues. Most places that are marketed as a wedding venue is going to be more expensive. Try restaurants, civic centers, VFW halls, elk lodges, etc.
Beyond location there are a million ways to save money and you’re already doing the big one, which is to limit the guest list. Less people is less cost, pure and simple!
Beyond that, it’s a matter of taking each individual part of the wedding and trying to find good, cheap options. They are definitely out there. Just takes some looking.