Post # 1
Ok, a few weeks ago I went to an outing against my will and FI said if I went then we would go workout and there would be no more excuses from him. Ok, so it has taken me this long, but today I decided this is the day we get back on that fitness wagon. I ate pretty decently, then had a hershey almond bar, but whatever, as long as we go to the gym it is not all lost right?
FI and I talked this morning and he agreed we will go after work. What happens all the time, happens again. He called me a few minutes ago to say we are going to skip the gym today because his back hurts and he doesn’t think he has any gym clothes clean. (I know he does) I was disappointed and I didn’t hide it. So, he said if I really wanted to go we would.
The thing is if I let him keep talking me out of it I will never look as good as I want to for my wedding. I was more upset with myself because the way I see it, I should have gotten up this morning and gone and if I go after work with FI then it is a bonus and I can do some strength training. Thats the way I USED to look at it. I started working out last year and eating better and I lost nearly 15 lbs and felt great. Fast forward to this year and as soon, literally AS SOON as we started wedding planning, I completely fell off and stopped going to the gym. Int eh past month to two months I have been drinking sodas nonstop and not being very health conscious!
I am so sick of it! Why is it so hard to get back to doing something that you KNOW you benefit from so well?
Post # 3
Aww, I know how you feel, hun. My fiance and I used to go running on the weekends together, and he kind of motivated me to go. Recently, he’s had some back problems and he’s had to stop running for a while, and I felt bad for feeling hurt! It wasn’t even his fault! But I felt like I lost my one motivating factor that got me to go on these long runs with him.
But I discovered that I really needed to motivate myself and that I couldn’t rely on other people to get me to workout. I totally get it though, and it’s hard. Just a few minutes ago I posted in another thread that I sometimes use the excuse “I need to get home to check for RSVPs” to keep me from the gym. But I’ve found that if you set a schedule, and stick with it, that helps. For example, Tuesday, Thursdays are gym days (usually the elliptical or treadmill). Mondays and Wednesday I go straight home and before dinner, I do some Pilates work and some free weights. Saturdays are my long runs by myself. I find that even if I don’t want to go, and I just say to myself, “Just do it for 10 mins” I find I’ll work out for much longer. The trick is to get started.
Post # 4
From personal experience, it starts out that something in life gets in the way and then there’s just excuses. It’s much easier to make excuses for not doing it rather than actually doing the work. Maybe if you built a reward system for you and your fiance then he’d stick to it.
Post # 5
I know how you feel. Even though I have been working out with a personal trainer, it’s so easy for me to fall off the fitness wagon. I shouldn’t blame anyone but myself, but FI always asks me to go out for dinner despite knowing I’m on a diet. Sigh.
Good luck with your endevours.
Post # 6
I have problems with the whole dinner part of it too. Having FI and two sons, things like pizza and buffalo wings are often requested. I have started making my own at home and it seems to satisfy their cravings a little.
Well, we didn’t go work out yesterday after all, but he assures me we are going today. So, I am going to rush home and get dinner started so it will be halfway done by the time he gets home. If I go ahead and change in to my workout clothes there is a greater chance of him not backing out too! i am already thinking ahead to tomorrow and since we have shuffleboard we will not be working out after work so I am going to MAKE myself get up and workout in the morning before work. I used to do this and it would make me feel so much better but lately I just can’t get myself to that point again.
Post # 7
Well, we DID go to the gym yesterday and I got up this morning and went so I don’t have to feel guilty for not going! Baby steps…
Post # 8
Baby steps are good. Sometimes i have issues making msyelf go too
Do you like the group classes? i’m actually (kind of) looking forward to mine tomorrow! But not looking forward to solo treadmill time today. It’s a distraction to have all those other people working out around you and motivating you so the time flies during classes
Post # 9
I had started getting in to the group classes at our other gym and did enjoy it. However, we switched gyms to save about a good $60 per month and this gym doesn’t have group classes. I have an old Tae-bo video I do sometimes…LOL