(Closed) Negative co-worker ( Sorry Long)

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I got tons of crap from my one coworker about waiting to get married, wait to have kids, don’t get dogs, etc, etc. He waited until he was in his mid/late 30’s to get married and start having kids, so he doesn’t see how someone that is in their mid 20’s could even consider it. I just ignored him, as I knew it wasn’t worth the battle. I did get pregnant by surprise though.

I definitely freaked out telling my boss, especially because I had to tell him at about 7 weeks. I was extremely sick (diagnosised with hyperemesis around weeks 8-9), and was already missing work at that time. I’m the only one capable of doing my job, as I’m the IT Director. Thankfully my boss was extremely supportive and is being great about the time off after the baby and allowing me to deal with things remotely as needed.

As for this coworker, let’s just say I’m still sick of him. He goes on and on all the time about what are we going to do while I’m on leave (we don’t even have maternity leave, so I’ll take unpaid time off, then work some from home), and what if something goes wrong. I get this anytime I go on vacation or am gone for more than a few hours. Yea – not my problem. That’s the boss’s issue to figure out and obviously he’s far from worried about it.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Kimmy83:  I’m guessing the coworker wanted you to wait because having kids probably ‘ruined her life’ and she thinks you still have life left to live. I had a co-worker like that. I finally cornered them and asked wtf. That was their explanation to me.

Post # 6
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300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL

Im a dental asst too! <3

A lot of dentists can be assholes about their assts being pregnant because of the x-ray thing, but that’s just too damn bad for them. I had to have emergency surgery earlier this year and my boss was like, “well can’t they reschedule it?” UGH!!!!

You should tell her, you shouldnt put yourself at risk because the other asst told you not too. She’s probably just bitter and jealous of you. And so what if your boss gets mad? She can’t fire you over it and its none of her business when you decide to start your family.

 

Good luck!!! We can swap dental office stories :oP

Post # 7
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

There opinions are just that…opinions.   If you want to have a baby that’s your business and no one elses and if they keep trying to make it theirs then you can nicely tell them to back off.  It doesn’t matter what they think of your pregnancy, they aren’t part of your family, they have no say.

Post # 8
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1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

First of all, Congratulations!! I’m a mother of a 26 year old son and g’ma to the sweetest 6 month old baby girl ever!!! Being a mom/g’ma is the best job in the whole world no matter what anyone tries to tell you, especially when you’ve wanted a family.

Sometimes people feel your news gives them the right to give you their opinion. You get engaged, they tell you not to get married. You get married, they tell you to wait or not have a baby. You get pregnant, they tell you all the negatives of becoming a mom. Sheesh, when will people just congratulate you and wish you well. If you ask “What do you think I should do?” then their advise is very much wanted. If they continue to butt in you can politely tell them you appreciate their concern but you’re doing what you feel is best for you and your husband. That way you’ll just kill them with sweetness.

I believe your co-workers reactions to your preganacy is because their only concern is how it’s going to effect their lives. The horror if they have to be a team player and pull some extra weight. Life happens and as far as telling your boss the only thing I can say is when you tell her, suggest you take over as receptionist and let the other assistant go to the back office. Hopefully this might soften the blow. I hope it all works out.

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