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I'm so sorry to hear you guys aren't seeing eye to eye right now! It sounds to me like he is just stressed out... I would sit down and have a conversation about what is troubling him and what you can do to help him feel better about all the planning and take down the stress factor a notch. Everyone deals with stress in different ways and it sounds like he is dealing with it via booze and his boys. Just keep those lines of communication open! It'll all work out but until then -hugs-
That could be...I'm having a hard time also though. I feel like I'm ALWAYS mad at him lately. My MOH says it's just stress.
my hubby does this occasionally and especially a few months before the wedding. he's just acting out...feeling the need to reassert his independence and 'manliness'. dont pay it too much attention, it will pass. he just needs to feel like he doesnt have to answer to you... his friends are probably making fun of him and this is how he is showing them and hisself that he is still his own man. i think its pretty common. dont be worried until he really crosses the line.
i agree w/ futuremrsmorgan. it sounds like he's trying to assert his independence a bit. i think we all go through that a bit - when you freak out about being part of a new unit and are worried about losing yourself. if it really bothers you, maybe speak to him at a separate time - not when he's heading out - about how it makes you feel, etc. and see if that changes. else i'd say give it time it likely will pass.
I know that planning a wedding is stressful. And it IS stressful for the groom no matter how much or little he's involved in the planning. And when there's stress you tend to take it on out on those that you love the most, whether they deserve it or not.
I agree with others who have commented. Sit him down one evening and talk with him. Tell him how you're feeling and maybe he can get some things off of his chest too. More than likely he'll be back to normal after the wedding stress is over.
I'm sure its just the stress. You guys are really close to the wedding day and that can cause tension. And even if your future hubby isn't as involved in the process as you are, apparently they get stressed out too- who knew?? Lol.
I'm still 9 months away and I find myself having to relax sometimes when I tell my fiance about something or ask for his opinion and I don't like his response, I can only imagine when its a month away! I'm hoping to avoid bloodshed but, no promises! I kid, I kid.
I've had a lot of friends get married recently and from what they tell me, this is pretty unavoidable. But once the wedding day comes, its all LOVE again! Hang in there!
I'm working on it...I'm hanging in there anyway. What's hard is that it seems to be a cycle. If I'm stressed about things and try to vent to him, he goes off on me about any little thing I'm doing wrong or could be doing better. Then I'm hurt and upset, and my attitude turns negative, which is hard for me to break when I'm feeling hurt (especially over and over again--not even having time to recover from the time before). And when I have a negative attitude, he snaps at me that much more. We're going on a "date night" tonight (we haven't been on one in FOREVER--too busy lately), and agreed not to talk about the wedding or other stressors, and just have fun together. Maybe that will help us both adjust our attitude toward eachother enough to talk things over. I hope. Thanks for all the input girls! It makes me feel a lot better to know that this is common, and a marriage can still happen through it. It's hard to imagine sometimes. I'm just worried that if we don't do something, we'll still be mad at eachother the day of the wedding and ruin it for ourselves... :-\
So here's an update...and a happy one! My FI and I went on our "date night" last night...saw The Ugly Truth. We laughed together all night. It was EXACTLY what we needed! We needed to get out of our negative attitude rutt. We did that, and today has been a wonderful day!
Deep breath. In. Out. You love your FI even when things are bad, yes? Even if you are so mad you could throw something? Good sign. It's wedding stress, and it's totally normal. Good luck!
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I'm new to this, and I can already tell it's a great place for advise! The last 3 or 4 weeks, my FI and I have not been seeing eye to eye. It started out with the bachelor/ette parties. We were going to meet up at the end of it for everyone to party together, but he and his best man changed that without even consulting me to make sure my maid of honor hadn't already made plans surrounding that. She had, and they had to be changed, so I was obviously upset about that...especially since the FI would NEVER in a million years ask his BM to do anything of the sort. And ever since then, things have just been mounting. This past Saturday was my bridal shower. When I got home, he decided to go have a few drinks at the bar with a mutual guy friend of ours, which was fine. However, we had been planning to go to church the following morning, so I told him not to get drunk enough to be hung over and to please try to be home somewhere between 11:30 and midnight so we could get to bed, and I promised to do the same since I was going out with one of my friends as well. Even the guy friend said he needed to be home around that time as well, so it wouldn't be a problem. NO! They didn't get home until 2am, and my FI was so drunk he was puking...of course the following morning, he didn't want to go to church. Tonight, he said he was going to stop at the BM's house for a beer after work, which was fine until I asked him if he would be home early or late...he blew up at my and told me he was not a fortune teller and did not know when he would be home and was not going to give me a time because then if he was late, I'd be mad about that. What to do?? It's been things like this for the last 3 weeks or more. Are we just so stressed out that we're getting upset more and pushing eachother's buttons more? Or is there more to it? I don't really know what to think, other than I just want the wedding to be done and over with so things can go back to normal.