Weddingbee boards

I don't actually expect any responses, I doubt anyone will want to read this, lol.  I just need a good vent sesh and I have to do it here.

I have an online journal that I've been writing in for over 7 years.  There are several people on that site who have been reading my journal since day one.  I consider them good friends and I trust them with my personal issues.  I cherish their advice and the comments they leave on my entires.

But lately, things have been getting a little heated.

See, my journal is about all sorts of stuff, mostly work-related rants, but also day to day issues and stuff about my relationship.  Just ho-hum kinda stuff.  But since SO and I started ring shopping a few months ago and now that he HAS the ring, I've been writing a lot about the impending engagement, how I LOVE and cannot WAIT to marry my BF, and how excited I am to get the ring!

Entries that I write about that topic seem to horrify my readers.  They're used to this tomboy-ish, tough Jersey girl who curses like a sailor and doesn't take shit from anybody, and then they start reading about how I'm drooling over diamonds and debating over settings, etc.  I got several comments from my long-term readers about how they're just "not into" those types of entries and how they probably won't read or comment on them.

Which is FINE.  I understand!  I wasn't expecting to get all googly-eyed over this stuff, either, but I LOVE talking weddings and rings and all that glitzy good stuff.  So I joined the Bee here, where I can write about it as often and openly as I want and I won't be judged over it!  Cuz I know everyone here has the same passion I do!  And it's GLORIOUS!

But since I'm in the waiting pool now, I don't have too much to update on here, ya know?  Which is why I haven't been writing very much on here.

Now, my other journal readers are in different stages in their lives and relationships.  A bunch are guys, so I know they don't care about wedding/engagement junk haha.  There are two girls in long term relationships who have NO interest in marrying their bf's anytime soon or EVER for that matter.  Which is fine, I'm not judging.  Then there's one girl who desperately wants to get engaged but she's in a LDR and her BF is a jerkface and I doubt they'll actually get married, but she's sort of living vicariously through me, so she loves my girly updates haha.

A few other girls are in serious relationships, but not engagement/wedding ready, and they'll make the odd comment here and there.  But the ones who do NOT want to get married are making all sorts of horrible comments.

Now, I'll preface this by saying that I KNOW that all my readers don't want to read about my ring rants or whatever.  So what I do is when I write an entry like that, I write a disclaimer to those readers that the entry is about the ring or that it's wedding related, and I suggest they skip it and not read it.  I'm not gonna cry if they don't leave comments, lol.  It's not that big of a deal.

But at least I have the courtesy of telling them that the following entry is something they won't be interested in.

And YET.... they still read the entries and they STILL write negative comments!  My last entry was about how a bunch of girls I work with recently got engaged and I can't help but to look at their rings and get impatient that I'm still waiting for mine.  It was a harmless little rant, I was just venting my frustration, even though I KNOW it'll be my turn soon.  But still, it gets annoying when 3 girls you work with get engaged and everyone turns to you and says, "You're next!", and you know you are but you just want to be engaged already and arrrggghhhhh!  Lol

So anyway, two of my readers posted comments saying they're "getting sick of reading about rings" and "you should find something else to write about *yawn*".  I'm sorry.  Excuse me.  I specifically wrote that you two shouldn't read this entry because it was regarding a topic that you're sick of!  And you tortured yourselves and read it anyway!  Don't get all pissy with me!  It's my journal and I can write about whatever I want as often as I want!

I try to be nice and they STILL have to write shit to bring me down.  It's obnoxious and rude of them.  They'll probably stop reading altogether when I get engaged and start constantly writing about wedding planning.

It just sucks that these people who I feel like I know, after 7 years of following their journals as well, can't even support me or be kind enough to follow my advice and skip the entry!  Or if they DO read the entry, just not write any comments!!  I would never write anything like that on their journals.  They've never been rude to me before, I wonder why they're starting now?

Anyway, that's my rant.  Just had to get it out.

@julies1949:  I do expect negative comments, I know people won't agree with me 100% of the time, and that's fine!  But I DO expect some common sense.  If I go to the trouble to explicitly write "Hey, Jane Doe, this entry is about x, y, and z, all of which I know you hate to read about.  So go ahead and skip this entry and save yourself the headache!", I would consider that a favor to that reader.  I told you not to read it, so you're only hurting yourself if you DO read it, and there's no need to post negative comments about it after I went so far as to tell you that you wouldn't like reading it!  I just think it's rude, that's all.

@BermyChick: Hahaha, too cute!  THANK YOU!!