Post # 1
We just booked our honeymoon! I am so excited- we are going to Couples Swept Away, an all inclusive resort in Negril, Jamaica, for 10 days. I love traveling, but for our honeymoon we wanted something relaxing, and stress free, like lots of other couples. After all the wedding stress, laying on the beach and being able to raise a flag to get a drink sounds heavenly, right?!
I am just not looking forward to telling certain people our honeymoon plans. One person in particular (my SIL) is extremely opinionated, and already told us what she thinks we should do for our honeymoon. She proceeded to criticize all inclusive resorts- they are overpriced, people who go to them lack imagination, it is cookie cutter, you are treated like a number, not an individual… She is entitled to her opinions, but frankly, I don’t want to hear it, and I know she will just start it again once she hears what our formal plans are.
Has anyone had experience with someone doing this? How did you handle it?
Post # 3
I’ve traveled all over the world (about 30 different countries on all continents), and while I generally feel that way your SIL about resorts, I definitely understand just wanting to relax and not have to plan/worry about anything for your honeymoon!
My main beef with resorts like the one you guys are going to is the fact that they are owned by international businesses in the US and Europe – almost no money goes back to the local economy (save for the pittance they pay their cleaning and hotel staff). It is keeping them impoverished, and basically they have given all their most valuable land/resources to these foreign companies in exchange for very little money that just keeps the cycle of poverty going. There’s a great documentary called Life and Debt in Jamaica that you should watch.
There are other places on Earth to go that are more socially responsible!
Post # 4
i have faced negative responses to every step of wedding planning, and am sure that the same will be true for the honeymoon.
we are planning on doing a honeymoon similar to yours.
Post # 5
The best thing about our honeymoon was that it was all-inclusive. After you’ve spent God knows how long planning a wedding, it’s nice to know that all of your lodging, food, and beverage are paid for in advance and you just don’t have to worry about it. That, to me, was priceless.
Also. Tell your SIL you understand her opinion, but are going to do what is best for you. End of story!
Post # 6
@crayfish: I appreciate your opinion, but from what I have heard, Couples is much better to their employees than other resorts. However, we are happy with our plans. I am really looking for advice on how to handle the situation I wrote about, not to start a debate on if we should go to an AI or not.
Post # 7
I would just say “Thanks for your opinion. Please do what you want for your honeymoon and we will do what we want for ours.”
Post # 8
We have had the same thing. We are going to Williamsburg, VA. It is one of my favourite places and we both hate the beach. I have been many times but Fi has never been. People are asking why not the beach, and they can’t understand when we tell them we don’t like the beach, they look at us like we are from Mars. So, that being said, I know how you feel. As long as ya’ll are happy then who cares?
Post # 9
@chocolatecoveredstrawberry: to tell you the truth I would tell your FI (presuming its his sister) to tell her to shut up. Why is it anyone else’s business where you chose to go on any holiday, no mind your honeymoon. Just ignore her, you don’t have to justify or defend yourself.
Post # 10
@chocolatecoveredstrawberry: simply tell her if she feels strongly about your honeymoon plans she could have gifted you one. Why didn’t she offer to make all the plans and pay for it? You need to just shut down the nonsense early. It’s already paid for so why does think her opinion matters? Tell her she can criticize when she spends her money, not make comments on how you choose to spend your income. The sheer nerve.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Our honeymoon is an all-inclusive similar to yours. I haven’t received any negative opinions on our plans, and I think your SIL needs to keep her opinions to herself. I would just let her know that this is the vacation you want and that’s that. I really dislike when others try to rain on someone’s parade. Have fun on your honeymoon!
Post # 13
@sleepyhead22: That is certainly true. Wedding planning is very stressful that way!
@LMD84: It sounds like you had a great honeymoon! I know it is that simple, it just annoys me to no end. I would never criticize someone’s choices that they are happy about, so when she acts that way, it seriously bothers me. (And for a little more info: she doesn’t say it like, “Personally, I am not into all inclusives, but if that is your thing, by all means!” It is more like, “God, I can’t believe someone would even choose to do that! Do they have no taste?”)
I guess the lesson here is that I need to be less bothered by people’s opinions. I don’t exactly care about what her opinion is, but it is more that it is voiced without any consideration or kindness.
Post # 14
havent been to your resort but i’ve been to jamaica seven times, negril four of those times. Negril is one of my FAVORITE places ever!! you’re going to love it so much.
i dont normally do AI either, but like the PP said, i totally get that you might just want to veg out on your honeymoon and not have to worry about carrying your wallet everywhere.
i do suggest leaving the resort to explore a bit of negril/jamaica, at least for a day or so. the people of jamaica are wonderful – the last time i went, it was with a girlfriend of mine. the guy we hired to pick us up from the airport was beyond kind. he took us to the grocery store before hand so we could pick up some food and we gave him $5 to buy a digicel calling card. he then gave us one of his extra cell phones and we were able to have a phone on us for the week. we were able to call our fiances & families at home to let them know we were still alive (lol) and when we wanted to go on an excursion, we just called our guy.
seriously, i have a million stories like this about people in jamaica. once you go, you know. you’re gonna have a great time! i’ll stop gushing now.
Post # 15
@mrsrigsby60: Williamsburg is really nice! I used to go there a lot because I grew up in Virginia. Your FI will love it- it is great if you like history, and I remember there are some gorgeous hotels there, too.
@julies1949: What you said is perfect. Straightforward and to the point without being rude.
@wwbga: She actually is my brother’s wife. Thanks for the support! You are right- nobody should have to feel the need to defend themselves on stuff like that. Heck, is she had said when they were wedding planning, “Guess what? We decided to go camping in our backyard for our honeymoon!” I would have just smiled and said, “Neat! Have fun!”
@bklynbridetobe: Ha, I wish I had the nerve to say that! “If you feel so strongly and wanted to choose our plans, you could have gifted us our honeymoon!”
@prisigtr: Thank you! Where are you going for your honeymoon?
Post # 16
@chocolatecoveredstrawberry: I have been I think about 10 times, & FI picked it becasue he knows it’s one of my favourite places. We are staying in Colonial Willamsburg so we won’t have to leave except for going to Jamestown.