Post # 1
Ohhhhhhh the FUN part ugh!! I am NOT good at asking people to lower a price or whatever, fiance and my mom aren’t bad at it though. So we are in love with this one venue and are asking for extras that FH won’t let go of so of course $ goes up. Right there, I feel uncomfortable asking for a better deal when if we just didn’t have 2 add ons we would have no problem with the cost. Well the total cost here would be fine IF there wasn’t a 20% gratuity, 8.625% tax and then matre d’ fee. Then there’s the fact that their vendors are pricy. If they would knock $2k off we could be comfortable-ish.
Sooooooooooo what do you guys think about negotiating? Have you and how much $ did you get taken off? I mean we found another venue giving us the same items for $10/less per person and for a SAturday instead of Friday! So it’s not like I’m totally wrong or asking for something for free ya know.
What do you guys think? How do you handle it and how do you ask? What have you gotten out of asking. As for vendors, can you negotiate that as well?
Post # 3
Just simply state “Our budget is this…. Is there any way you can come down to that price?” They will either say yes or they will say no. And if they say no just move on to the other place. They will try and get the most money out of you unless you firmly state exactly what price you are willing to pay.
Post # 4
I think you’re not going to get much by just asking if they’ll lower the price without sacrificing extras or portions of what’s included in the package. The reason is, they really have no incentive to do so, especially if you’re getting married during a fairly busy time of the year. If you can’t pay full price, they know there’s bound to be someone who can.
When I’ve negotiated, it’s been by changing what’s included in the service or products – i.e. 7 hours of photography instead of 8, changing the flowers I want in my bouquet, etc. I was also able to negotiate some of the language in the photography contract. But I’ve never flat-out asked if they could just lower the price a bit, because I don’t feel I’m in a position to do so, you know?
What are the extras that your FI can’t live without? Are there things in the venue’s package that you can let go of? Oh, and do you have to use their vendors?
Post # 5
I don’t have any tips as I haven’t done this yet, but I just want to follow for the advice too
Post # 6
Honestly I don’t think any of my vendors were really open to negotiating their prices. Our venue definitely would have just told us to get lost, lol. We did get some to tailor their packages a bit to better fit our needs but that’s about it.
Post # 7
@StarIzInkd: I’m not good with negotiating in person so that’s why we did it via emails 🙂
Also, we negotiated with every vendor I booked so far and we’re planning on negotating with the rest I haven’t booked. I don’t see the hard of asking for a better deal especially if it’s your budget. The worse they do is say “no.” PM if me you have any other questions. Good luck!
Post # 8
@shannonh32: This, exactly. We got 2K off our venue that way 🙂 They would rather have the business, than not at all.
Post # 9
@shannonh32: I totally agree. It worked for us and we ended up saving $2,500.
We went to a meeting to see our venue and they showed us a sample contract. We told them (at the meeting) that although we loved the package and venue, we just couldn’t pay more than x amount of dollars. The coordinator told us she would talk to her boss for us to see what she could do. We were lucky in the regard that we’re getting married in March (the wedding off-season), that helped us immensely with quite a few of our vendors.
Post # 10
Sorry to hijack a bit OP, but….
@reginaphalange: Is this the same Regina from the Debate Team on BBC? If so, good to see you here!!
Post # 11
Venues rarely negotiate, but I have straight out said to caterers, “Our budget is X. Can you work with us?” And then I usually put some heat on them that we have other offers or know someone who will do it for that price. I dont think this is haggling because it is the truth.
Post # 12
Wow, by all your repsonses it seems no one has the same situation on this. it’s either you guys say it won’t happen or it did lol.
I just got the email back from my fav venue which basically said they couldn’t lower anything especially for October. Ugh I hate that I always dreamed of OCtober plus kind of has meaning to me so I’m sorta set unless we would save $2K by having everything on a Friday in like Ausgust or something. I’m all about having a pretty view/outside for pictures and view from the inside kinda thing so as I learned at one venue I went to last month, everything is dead off season so thats ruled out. My FH wants stupid lamb chops and Viennese table (I’d like but don’t care on the 2nd) he is insistant and at the same time it is the ONLY thing he wants or cares for out of EVERYTHING. He’s letting me have whatever I like and just wants that so how can I neglect him of it ya know.
Now.. back to sqaure one..
Post # 13
I am SO not good at negotiating either…. it makes me feel awkward and I can’t even explain it – embarrassed maybe???? We found a venue we loved. It was way too expensive. Their minimum food/beverage was way higher than we wanted to spend. (The venue is a historic private restaurant, so they handle the catering). They told us that if we picked a particular date then they could cut it in half……(as they had a cancellation). I definitely didn’t want that day, but having said that, I realized that nothing is set in stone, and SOOOO the negotiating began!
We ended up booking this venue about 3 weeks later (at the end of the month, which I totally think helped get the price we wanted….. you know, like car sales – always best to do it at the end of the month when they want to inflate their numbers….) They ended up taking $6,000 off the food/beverage minimum and completely waiving the “ceremony fee” – so we came in exactly where we wanted to be! (had we taken the date we didn’t want, essentially, we would have saved $9,000, but it just wouldn’t work fo us).
Best of luck….. it’s not fun…. i found it incredibly stressful, but in the end, it worked out and I couldn’t be happier!
Post # 14
@Leeshie: WOW!!!! That is INSANE!! I was alreayd thinking if its WAY out of your budget don’t even bother negotiating but WOW look at that! Congrats lol 😀
Yes definitely more stressful than fun. I think if we had the $$ already it would be more fun than stressful. But one way or the other, we are going to make it work.
Post # 15
@StarIzInkd: One of my bridesmaids is also planning her wedding and she’s negotiating with a venue that has a $17,500 venue fee (not counting food or beverage minimums) and they are now down to $12,000 and still going back and forth through details. It NEVER hurts to try!! And it helps if you are flexible with dates…. a lot of times if they don’t have something booked for a particular date they’re willing to drop their costs to fill the spot. Good luck – let us know how it goes!!
Post # 16
I’m a horrible negotiator. But lemme say that almost every vendor we booked, we got a discounted price just for asking. I would ask for a quote, then once they gave me a quote, I’d just ask if they’d be willing to come down in price to meet our budget. Every one of our vendors came down 15-25% from their asking price. Some lowered their price, while still throwing in extra add-ons to secure our business. Like the others have mentioned, it doesn’t hurt to try. If anything, it’s also a good indicator of things to come. If they’re jerks about it, it’s likely they’ll be jerks later down the line should any issues arise, etc. In our case, we’ve developed a rapport with our vendors, and they seem to genuinely be on our side. They know we’re on a budget, and have accommodated us. Just be firm but pleasant. It’ll all work out!