Post # 1
So, I have a neice whom I haven’t seen for a few years now because we lived quite a distant apart, but now she moved closer and all of a sudden wants to see me. She’s 14 and bounces back and forth between her mom’s (my sister)… her dad’s (split up with my sister)….her friend’s….who is a druggie… and has an all around unstable life. She has a really bad attitude and gets kicked out of everyone’s house who she stays with. She also has a bad habit of stealing and has been dropped out of school for a few years.
Last week she contacted me and asked if we can hang out. I said absolutely…I want to take her out for dinner and do something fun with her. Then she asked if she could sleep over. I kind of got a red flag…and my mom advised me not to leave any valuables out. So I hid my make-up, perfumes, alcohol and valuables in my dryer under a towel and underwear lol.
I’m now thinking it’s not a good idea she sleeps over and am getting kind of nervous she might pull something weird….but she’s a 14 yr old kid and Im trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. Am I over reacting by being worried to fall asleep with her there???
ps. She lives a couple hours away by subway and in a seedy part of town…so I don’t want he going home alone late at night (which it will be since we’re meeting up at 6pm after Im done work)
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@westcoast_girl: Meet somewhere in public first to how well behaved she is before committing to a sleep over. But since you’ve aleady said yes, you’re kind of stuck. Don’t leave her alone in any rooms and lock up your valuables (including charger cables; don’t ask) in your bedroom and lock your door when you go to bed. And don’t agree to any more sleep overs until you have met up with her a few times to just hang out. Maybe she just needs a neutral third party to spend time with since she seems to have ruined her relationship with other friends/family members; and maybe she just wants to rob you blind. Who knows?
Post # 4
I would still have her over, it sounds like she is having a rough time. She probably has a bad attitude and steals because her life is a mess, a positive influence could help her out.
Post # 5
As long as your booze and valuables are hidden/locked up, I don’t see any harm!
She sounds like she’s having a REALLY hard life. Maybe she remembers you as being an amazing, stable aunt she can trust, and that’s why she wants to see you?
Post # 6
That’s what I was thinking too… we’re going to meet at the subway station and I’m taking her out and treating her.
I feel really bad for her, she has so many losers in her life and doesn’t have any positive influence. It just makes me nervous that I have to lock everything up…
I guess I’ll see how the night goes and if he starts acting suspicious, I’ll have to make up an excuse how she can’t stay over.