- 3 years ago
So my FH and I bought a house about 2 years ago and to say that our nosy old neighbor lady across the street is a meddler would be the understatement of the century. He and I mostly keep to ourselves but are always polite and chatty when we see her outside…even though she usually runs across to tell us of some drama that she’s noticed about one of our other neighbors (mostly involving how they “raise” their dogs). We always just listen and stay neutral because it’s always really petty stuff and she’s a huge dog lover (so are we, we have two) but she’s actually told us that she’s actually called animal control on some of our other neighbors recently. We live in a neighborhood with really nice people and I’ve never seen anything that would make me feel like animal control needs to be called on anyone! basically, over the past couple of years, we’ve deduced that she just doesn’t have enough to do to fill her day and must just roam the neighborhood looking for problems. NOW. she’s become OUR problem and i’m SUPER annoyed and need some perspective on if I need to just leave things alone because my gut instinct at the moment is to be stubborn and probably make things escalate.
Our dogs are indoor dogs that we keep crated while we’re at work. My FH lives just a couple blocks away and comes home to let them out throughout the day. Two days ago, we moved their crates from the living room to our (air-conditioned) garage. We came home yesterday to a typed note on the front door saying that one of our dogs barked all day long and that the person could hear it in their house with the doors closed yadda yadda yadda and ended it with “do something about the noise.” it was unsigned, but i’m a million percent sure is was nosy neighbor lady. she’s left us notes on our door about various innocuous things before when she’s trying to communicate with us, but usually they’re hand written (things like, “hey i noticed your flower pot tipped over so I picked it up .” like i said, she seems to have tons of time to “notice” things).
ANYWAY, my FH went home twice yesterday, once for an hour at lunch and they were in with him so i know that they didn’t bark ALL day. And they’re always quiet dogs (they sleep in our room so they DEFINITELY don’t bark at night). I’m not saying that there’s no way they didn’t bark at all that day (i mean, they’re dogs!), but the note was dramatic. I think i’m mostly pissed because it was anonymous so we, in theory, wouldn’t know who to discuss/apologize/address the issue with directly, but also VERY passive-aggressive and even kind of insulting to our intelligence because it’s CLEAR where it came from.
At my FH’s request, I didn’t go across the street to talk to her last night, bc i was annoyed and wanted to decide if a confrontation was even worth it. But I also didn’t move them back in the house because i truly don’t believe either of them barked all day. I’ve even asked two friends to stop by already this morning to make sure they were being quiet and both said they couldn’t hear a peep.
Anyway, this turned out much longer than i meant for it – sorry! – but i don’t want to start a neighbor war but i also want to speak with her directly bc i’m not into the whole passive-aggressive note writing thing and I’d like to find out exactly what her side of the story is.
What would you do? If there was a complaint from a reasonable, less dramatic neighbor, we would try and move the crates back inside right away. we are reasonable and considerate people and definitely don’t want to be a bad neighbor. but until we find reason to believe that the dogs really are as noisy as she says, the dogs’ crates will stay in the garage bc there’s just no longer room for them in our living room (we just got new furniture and they don’t fit). However, I’m afraid that as long as she knows they are in there, she will keep the notes coming bc she’s nuts and needs an issue to fight and things will escalate.
Should I just drop it and keep things as they are? should i give in and try and squeeze their crates in around our new furniture? should i talk to her? AGH! neighbors!! some outside perspective is much appreciate here!