Post # 1
Our neighbors got a dog about a week and a half ago. I first noticed that it barked when they aren’t home last Friday as I was home in the afternoon. It then continued barking for most of the weekend. We kindly let them know on Monday that their dog barks when they aren’t home. They were receptive and told us they didn’t realize this.
We got through the week okay because they seemed to be home when we were home so the dog didn’t bark as much. We were annoyed by barking again starting Friday afternoon but we were in and out of the apartment so it didn’t bother us too much. We got home this evening and it has been barking non stop for three hours now. It’s time for bed for us and our neighbors aren’t home so the dog is still barking.
We originally tossed around the idea of contacting the apartment management or the city (they have pretty strict guidelines about barking) but we do want to be sympathetic to their situation (as I hope others would be if we’re ever in a similar situation) and allow them time to train the dog. I also don’t want them to feel pressured by the apartment complex to give the dog up but we just can’t deal with listening to it bark for hours. We’re going to talk to them again about it tomorrow. Is it okay to ask what they have been doing to train it or what they plan on doing? Is it rude to ask them how long it will take? How long does this typically take?
Like I said, we won’t be reporting them but we do want this sorted out soon if possible. It’s very annoying listening barking for this long and I’m assuming if the dog is barking this much there is also something wrong.
Post # 3
Do they give the dog toys or bones to play with? Do they ever walk it? I think once the dog settles in to a routine it may not bark as much. Is there something the dog is afraid of and is barking at?
Post # 4
@Astra: I’m not sure what they have tried. I was thinking about making suggestions as I’ve been researching it the past couple days but I’m not sure if it’s too forward to mention these. There is a bull dog across the yard from it, however, it was not out tonight while the dog was barking. Beyond that, the window the dog is always at faces the other apartments so there usually aren’t people outside or walking past.
It’s an adult dog so we’re assuming it just need to get into it’s new routine. We’re just hoping it does it quickly…
Post # 5
I’m just going to say.. you can’t fix a barking problem like that in a week… only thing I would suggest is letting them know that their dog is still barking and that maybe they need to look into treatment/training for separation anxiety. If they ask for any particular suggestions then you can suggest specifics.
Post # 6
Maybe you should sugget crate training? That can help the dog feel more secure and less anxiety. Honestly though, there’s no non-awkward way to go about this situation…
Post # 7
@MrsBeck: Our dogs bark when people walk by… they are protecting their home’s its something they naturally do when they are scared or nervious to either let us know something is there or let the thing be aware this is their space don’t come in
if the dog is barking an they are not there i don’t know how they can reinforce to bark or not bark b.c. its a habit that happens only when they are not home witch leands me to beleive the dog is gaurding its home naturally
I will say this… notto be offensive but its a dog they bark its just like you talk … or if you were to be on its level would likely assert hey this is my yard house apartment
i have no clue what our dogs do when i am not home… I also am not aware what i could do to change it … my dogs are pretty quiet unless someone is out near the door or if they are running int he yard they bark at birds alot … and any other lil critters that come in the yard …. and ppl who walk by the fense lol ohh and to the other dogs on the street but tis just part of what a dog is
they are quiet when nothing is in there space
Post # 8
@MrsBeck: My feeling is it’s not your place to ask them about whether the dog’s getting trained. It’s hard to ask a question like that without sounding critical. Plus, even if it’s getting trained, that doesn’t excuse the barking.
I would just politely tell them again the facts (that it barked continously for 3+ hours while they were out). Then it’s their responsibility to deal with it however they see fit.
Post # 9
@MrsBeck: Instead of asking them about training ask them if they adopted from a shelter and if they did suggest they contact them for tips on helping the dog to adjust sometimes the dogs get connected to a certain toy, blanket or kennel and its not mentioned when they adopt. Unless you are willing to help train the dog or check on it for them when it starts to bark I wouldnt ask about training but it could be an easy fix like a crate, toy or even leaving on a TV so the dog has something to listen to.
Post # 10
@MrsBeck: We’ve had to contact the authorities numerous times about our neighbors dogs. I feel so badly for them, they leave them out all of the time! One time one of the dogs barked literally all night, and I threw a tennis ball over the fence for him and he was so happy. I know I can’t get mad at the dog, as it’s the owners responsibility. He’ll bark from boredom, maybe that’s why your neighbors dog does as well?
We also invested in a dog whistle. Best $4 EVER spent on Ebay! If you blow it when they’re barking, they’ll quit. They HATE the sound! It doesn’t hurt them, just annoys them.
Post # 11
@MrsBeck: Is the dog barking from the indoors or outdoors? In our townehouse community some neighbors leave their dogs tied up outside for short periods of time. It’s not very pleasant, but usually only for short periods. I’d hate to have to hear it all weekend. Is it a large dog or a small dog?
I’m not sure what I’d do. Do you think it’s bothering others, as well?
Post # 12
I would write them a letter. Include information you provided- you like dogs. You are not looking into filing a complaint. You are concerned for the dog’s well being. Your home is still being infiltrated by the noise of the dog barking while they are gone.
Ask them to fix it. But, don’t tell them how to do it because in situations like this it just comes off condescending.
……If all else fails I would suggest a white noise machine for yourself. It’s annoying to listen to barking. I don’t even enjoy listening to my own dogs bark (they have an obsession with doorbells from TV shows. Drives them crazy!!)
Post # 13
Give them time! They just got it! I know its frustrating, but the dog is in a new environment and the only people it knows keep leaving and he doesnt know if theyll be back.. Our pup did this when wed crate her and go to work for the first few weeks, granted i ended up taking half days off work for a while until she got settled, but she RARELY ever barks now. I mean ever! I can count on one hand how often shes actaully barked in the last 2 years. She is the best apartment dog ever.
try some ear plugs or some good headphones. Our neighbour enjoys the electric guitar… In the middle of the night lol so i always have a pair handy. If im really struggling to sleep or study ill throw on some “white noise” from youtube, and can usually block most noises with that 🙂
Post # 14
@MrsBeck: It sounds like you’re being really understanding, which I think is great, and I agree with PP that it takes more than a week to get a new dog accustomed to your home. But I think it’s nuts that you should just have to deal with a dog that barks for hours – noise isn’t something you can just ignore, and you have the right to live in a peaceful environment. I would bring it up again to your neighbors, because if the dog only barks when they’re not home, then they shouldn’t leave the dog home alone during nighttime hours when people are sleeping. What if you had a child that was trying to sleep? I think it’s good to be sympathetic to their situation, but I think you’re well within your rights to say something again. And I’m sure if you’re feeling this way, many of your other neighbors are too. Good luck!
Post # 15
@Kissed_by_lightning: This dog barks constantly at nothing though. There are no windows facing a street in these apartments, only the strip of grass between the apartment complex (about 10 feet wide) and I’ve looked outside to see if it’s actually barking at someone/something and it’s not. I understand dogs barking at things but that’s usually for a short period of time, not a straight 3 hours. I’ve read that crate training the dog usually helps with this (as other PPs) have said which is why I was curious if it’s okay to mention this to them as the dog currently wanders the whole apartment.
I don’t think of a dog barking like me talking. I have never heard any of our neighbors talking through the walls before. We also thought about how it’s almost like someone playing music too loud, however, if someone is doing that they are obviously home and we can ask them to stop. When the dog is barking because it’s home alone there is absolutely nothing we can do about it.
Post # 16
@paula1248: yeah you’re right. I don’t want to come off as critical. The nagging part of my personality just wants to know what they are doing as we don’t want to put up with this indefinitely. I’ll just let them know the dog was barking again. I guess if we continue to let them know that the dog is barking they will train it not to (I’ve hear l heard crate training helps and they currently aren’t doing that).
@minted: this is a good idea. TBH I wouldn’t mind letting the dog out or playing with it! I love dogs but we aren’t in a position to get one ourselves right now. I would gladly play with it or let it outside but we aren’t very close to them so I’m not sure they would be open to that (and I’m not sure how to bring it up). I’ve read a lot about crating and that’s why I was curious if it would be rude to mention that to them. They currently don’t crate it and from what I’ve read I think that could help.
@PacificMrs: like you, I feel bad for the dog! It seems like they are never home so perhaps the dog is just bored. It’s inside, if it was outside I would just toss a toy over for it but that’s not a possibility :/
We were thinking of investing in a dog whistle. We weren’t sure if it could hear it through the walls though. Guess it’s worth a try since it’s so cheap!
@greenidlady: it’s barking from inside. It also is frustrating because we have been turning our air on rather than opening the windows because than it’s even louder. It’s a small dog so it has a very high pitched bark which seems to carry more. I’m pretty sure others can hear it- the people on the other side definitely hear it if we can. I’m hoping if others can hear it that they also are telling them so that they realize how loud/continuous it is.
@ArizonaGirl: thanks for the suggestion! I definitely don’t want to seem condescending! If this keeps up we’ll probably look into a white noise machine for when we sleep as DH hates ear plugs.
@dv3849: this is why I want to give them time but I guess I want to make sure they are making an attempt to train as well :/ I wish they were home a little more on the weekends or at least when we’re home! I wore ear plugs last night but DH hates them. We also were trying to watch a movie last night but I got so annoyed I ended up just sticking in ear plugs and reading. The dog rarely barks when they are home so I really think it must be bored or scared or something so I feel bad for it!
@ZoeyGirl: this is it exactly! We are trying to be sympathetic but at the same time I would like to ask them to make an effort to be home more often or at least come home at a certain time. I know everyone has their own life though so I don’t know that they would respond kindly to that :/ like I said, I feel a bit bad for the dog. It’s got to be exhausting to bark for that long so it must be doing it for a reason!