Post # 1
DH and I live in a town house. Due to the layout of the apartments, neighbors on one side of us are entirely silent. We never hear a peep. The other side, however, not so much. Our living room shares a wall with their kitchen, which is also an open concept living room. Our bedroom shares a wall with their nursery. These walls seem to be nonexistent, sound wise. We could always hear them in the kitchen, closing cabinets and moving dishes, and hear their muffled conversations, but that’s fine because it’s just them living.
Since they just had a baby in the last few weeks, life has become intolerable! The baby screams for hours on end, all day long. And it’s SO loud. If I’m sleeping, I can hear it. If I’m watching tv or crafting in the living room or dining table, I can hear it. The only sound proof place is Dh’s office.
So, I get that babies cry. And sometimes there’s nothing you can do about it. I understand that I can’t complain and tell then to stop their kid from making noise – it’s not like complaining about a barking dog. But, is there anything I CAN do? I have a white noise machine, the baby is louder. It’s louder than the tv. I’m at my wits end, bees! I just don’t know what to do about it. I’m miserable being in my house anymore!
Post # 3
@sofialovesmikey: Have you spoken to the landlord about adding some soundproofing?
Post # 4
Invest in soundproofing. The baby isn’t going anywhere and it sounds like your walls need it anyway if you can hear that much of their day to day living. If you both own your units, maybe they’ll share the cost with you or it can come out of association fees.
Post # 5
buy some earplugs. and talk to the landlord about adding soundprooding like PP’s suggested.
Post # 6
@julies1949: unfortunately, I’m 100% sure the landlord won’t do anything. We’ve spent the last year trying to get them to repair the wall they tore apart to correct some electrical problems. If painting a wall that’s all patched up from THEIR damage isn’t important, I’m sure soundproofing won’t be on their radar.
Post # 7
Hang up a carpet or thick blanket to help muffle sound.
Post # 8
@sofialovesmikey: You can do it yourself. Basically youneed to crete a second wall with airspace between your wall and theirs. From the inside, after you finish and paint the drywall, no one will ever know you have done anything. It will look like any other finished wall.
Post # 9
@julies1949: this sounds a little labor intensive for us to complete, but I appreciate the suggestion!
Post # 10
Is DH’s office big enough to use as a bedroom for a while? At least then you could get some sleep.
Or perhaps you could ask your neighbors to move the baby’s crib away from your shared wall?
Post # 11
@AlwaysSunny: I agree with this.
I think the best solution would be to nicely chat with your neighbors. Granted with a newborn they are probably at their wits end but a calm discussion about the situation starting with kind introductions and asking how they are doing might be enough to break the ice. You could even go as far as bringing them a food item and offer congrats on their new little one.
You are both in a tricky situation. Again they are dealing with a new baby, new life and new schedule with likely non-existent sleep. It sounds like you are both in the same boat. I am always for open and non-accusatory communication.
Post # 12
Ugh apartments and newborn babies are the WORST. I have a neighbor whom we share our master bedroom wall with and I hear the thing screaming ALL THE TIME. It’s seriously the most annoying sound on this planet. I’ve since been able to cover up the sounds with a loud fan I keep on in the room. I also switched my bed to the opposite wall and put a television on the wall that we share with the nursery. When the infant wakes ME up with its screaming, I blast the TV and wake the parents up. They’ve since moved it to another room! 🙂
Post # 13
@AlwaysSunny: This is what I was thinking. Switch the office and bedroom for the time being. It might not be pretty, but at least you get to sleep.
Babies work on growing cycles and whatnot, so even if they’ve cried for 2 weeks straight they could wake up tomorrow and decide to be a quiet baby now. Also, I’m sure the parents will get better at soothing him/her. I’m a pansy and wouldn’t say anything to the neighbors but you might get lucky and the little one might settle down any day now.
Post # 14
@PinkMermaid: DH has suggested putting his large speaker flat against the nursery wall, and playing Metallica’s ‘Enter Sandman’ on repeat for hours. Quietly, but just loud enough to eat it through the walls. Haha.
Post # 15
@AlwaysSunny: unfortunately, the office in unusable as a bedroom. It is a long room with a severe sloped ceiling, so only the first 4 feet into the room are a actually usable for anything but storage. If we put the bed in, we couldn’t walk around to the other side, we’d have to crawl over each other all the time. Plus there’s no heat, and we’re in NY!
Post # 16
If you can, try to have a little compassion for these new parents. If the baby’s crying is driving you to distraction, imagine how tough it must be on them!
You might even think about getting them a little baby gift: Harvey Karp’s The Happiest Baby On the Block (book or DVD – the DVD might be better in this case!) and a swaddle sack. Give them some tools to help defuse the crying, and you will all benefit.