Post # 1
We own a single family home in a nice, quiet neighborhood. Recently, our next door neighbors moved away due to military obligations and have placed their home for rent while they are away for the next several years. 10 months ago, a family with four boys under the age of 6 moved in to rent the home. They are very nice people and their children are very cute but they are the loudest and most hyper children we have ever seen in our lives. These children SCREAM at the top of lungs ALL. DAY. LONG. They are 100 times louder than any of the other kids in the neighborhood. Beginning at around 7:15 am, they go out side and kick their soccer balls up against our privacy fence or up against the garage door in their back yard….They play with the sprinklers and hose and have They climb the fence and yell at our dog, throw things into our back yard and then scream until we throw them back. The ram their bikes and little tykes cars into their garage door and fence (both of which are now dented). One day we came home to find them throwing rocks and small pieces of concrete at our dog while yelling. HEY! DOGGY! COME HERE!!!! They have a small plastic play slide that they rip apart and bang together that makes a loud hollow bang. You can even hear them a few streets over down at the lake.
When it first started happening, we would just ask the little boys to get down off the fence because we hadn’t met the parents yet..or seen them for that matter.
Most days we just put up with it. We keep our windows up, stay inside, turn up the volume on our tv to drown it out and keep our dog inside. We can still hear it, and it still bothers us, but we put up with it because we don’t want to harass them. Occasionally, when we cant handle it anymore, I will go over and speak to the mom and ask her to ask them to be quieter…which doesn’t work. She isn’t mean about it, shes just kinda like”OK sorry boys will be boys..Oh well” Sometimes we have even heard her yelling at the boys to “Go outside and Scream” instead of screaming inside the house…She really just doesn’t care. We understand that she is probably tired and overwhelmed and after talking to her we know that she doesn’t see the noise as bothersome but just as her boys being kids and playing.
We have talked to the home owner but she is powerless. She has complained to the rental company and so have we but the rental company doesn’t care. They have a 2 year lease with the option renew which they have every intention of doing.
We aren’t sure if calling our HOA will do any good because if they do anything, they will just fine the homeowner and not the renter…
We don’t want to make them mad or harass them in anyway but the noise is really ridiculous….We have no problem with them playing reasonably in the back yard we just have a problem with the excessive screaming and climbing our fence.
We can’t sit in our own back yard or living room without hearing constant screaming….We have put a lot of money into our back yard so that we can sit outside and enjoy it but all of that is going to waste.
What do we do. I don’t want to insult them by telling them that their kids are unbearable and being polite about it is clearly not doing anything…How do you politely tell someone that their children are out of control?
Post # 3
@FutureMrsClayshulte: Here, I would call bylaw. There are noise limits.
Post # 4
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I would speak to the parents about the dog thing. It’s not okay for them to be interacting with (or throwing things at) your dog. Period. But otherwise? Welcome to life with neighbors. You have no recourse unless they are violating a city noise ordinance (and they are usually in effect for limited hours like 11pm-5am). Sometimes we get lucky with good neighbors. It looks like your luck just ran out with these folks. Sorry.
Post # 5
Try to ask the city really sweetly if there’s anything you can do. Honey catches more flies, remember.
“Yeah, my husband and I have been trying everything to get along with the new neighbors. We’d really just like to all be able to hang out in the backyard and get along but we’re having trouble with the children. Does the city offer any kind of mediation services or at least a referreral? What do they do? I mean, boys will be boys, but they throw chunks of concrete at our dog and climb our fence. We’re concerned and can’t leave the dog out for fear he’ll get hurt and they’ll get hurt going after him. We can deal with kid noise but in the evenings it just gets unbearable.”
If you get ahold of someone nice they might offer to have an officer come and talk to the kids. A police man can make a big impression. Or maybe the city does offer mediation and you can talk with the neighbors and work something out (like send them somewhere else for two hours a day so I can go outside). If there’s a noise ordinance they’ll inform you of that, too.
Post # 6
Ugh. I feel your pain. Our neighbors moved out and rented their house to a family with 5 kids, AND the mom would be watching their cousins and friends sometimes too. Some people just have no consideration for others. I’d call the non-emergency number for the police and make a complaint.
Post # 7
@FutureMrsClayshulte: I would look into the noise laws in your town. Around here, yes usually the noise thing is limited to “quiet hours” being 11 pm – 6am or something but they also have a duration law.
For example people have gotten in trouble for leaving their dog on the porch as it consistantly barks for hours on end. If the noise is lasting more than a few hours you may be able to make a complaint?
I’m sorry, I’ve had my fair share of less-than-perfect neighbors and kids drive me crazy (I’ve never complained, I just don’t like kids lol) but your neighbors seem really over the top and the noise is excessive – not “typical” of little boys.
I don’t think there is much you can do legally…maybe enjoy your backyard with a pair of earbuds in? It’s not fair I know, sorry OP 🙁
Post # 8
The only thing I can see really what they are doing wrong is harrassing your dog and the privacy fence other than that really you are out of luck. Unless they are violating any noise restrictions which sounds like they are not.
Post # 9
First off THEY are the ones being rude and harrassing YOU.
Talk to them and tell them you have a right to peace and quiet in your own home. Their childrens behaviour is unacceptable. Is there any way to report them to the home owners? Report them to the city and document everything. Finally you can always hang up a video camera into your yard. Real or fake.
Post # 10
@Sassygrn: This. The things they are doing to *your* property (including your dog) are the things you have grounds to complain about, but otherwise? That’s life in a neighborhood with kids.
I would call the non-emergency line and ask what options you have with neighbors who are damaging your property and harassing your dog. They don’t have the right to climb your fence, or throw things at your dog, but they do have the right to play in their own backyard, even if it’s noisy (because kids’ noise is very unlikely to qualify under any noise-related bylaws). Find out what you can do about the things that can be controlled.