Post # 1
Would you prefer a Neil Lane setting from Jared or a custom-made one of a kind setting if it looked almost identical to the setting from Jared? Both are around the same price.
Pros of the Jared setting:
-Available now or very shortly
-Tried it on and fell in love with it
-Neil Lane is a well known designer (and the designer for the Bachelor/Bachlorette which I love)
– Love all of the pave and milgrain detail around the band (picture does not do it justice)
Cons of the Jared setting:
-They are mass produced and a lot of others may potentially have the same ring
-I had a pretty bad experience the few times I went there and actually would prefer them to not have our business. One time I went there, there was a very nice woman who helped us and did not pressure us but other than that they were pretty terrible
– Have to pay sales tax
Pros of the custom-made setting:
-Custom-made one of a kind from a New York jeweler
-I could change the setting to make it a tad more “me” (although the changes would be VERY minimal)
– Would not have to pay sales tax
– It would be neat to have a “blue print” and to have the story and process of my ring being made specifically for me
Cons of custom-setting:
-Couldn’t try it on
– Time! How long does custom jewelry take to make??
– I don’t live in New York and have never met this woman (we know her sister)
– Have to have it shipped from NY
– Scared they will not be able to replicate all of the milgrain detail I love around the band
* Here is a pic of the setting from Jared’s website for reference
Post # 3
I have a custom ring and it did not take super long to make…maybe a month? My fiance was shocked at how quickly it was done. AND I love that no one else has a ring exactly like mine!
Post # 4
Funny story. When we first started talking about ring shopping we were in NYC (visiting) so we stopped at a Zales (not apart of the Kay – Jared conglomerate, I think) to just get sized. I tried on a solitaire first and surprisingly loved it! SO once I got to Kay, I tried on the Neil Lane and it wasn’t all that I dreamed it would be.
Based on this information, my SO decided to work with a jeweler (not in NYC but a retired jewler who works on contract and for family friends) to build my solitaire. He likes the sentimental factor of knowing that this will be the very first diamond he ever gave to me.
So, try on a couple of different styles and think about what’s most important to you. Good luck!
Post # 5
Also, I’m sorry this is not posted in the ring section…I’m not sure how to move it!
Post # 6
I’d go with the custon setting, as it is more special…Jared’s is a chain, and the Neil Lane line there is his “budget” line and as you noted wayyyy over produced, kind of like Vera Wang for Zales.
Also, with a jewler, you’ll get much better customer service. A good jewler can replicate any design—and make it more custmized for you. If you know she is reputable, I say go with her without any hesitations. Good luck! As for timing, every jewler is different, but it shouldn’t take nore than 2 months. Heck, our jewler made my diamond wedding band in a day!
Post # 7
My ring is a custom design, though from a professional jeweler. (Not a chain like Jared’s – just a local business.) Including picture so you can see what they were capable of.
The milgrain doesn’t seem as complex as your dream ring, but they were able to do it just fine. The space between the band stones is only one milgrain thing-y wide which I imagine wasn’t easy, but it was no problem. They didn’t seem to have any sort of design limitations. I’d definitely ask the lady from NY what she thinks. Make sure that you are on the same page for every detail.
As for how long it takes – I think it took about 6 weeks for my ring to be made. (I don’t know how long my FI spent designing it, he’s embarassed to tell me). He made the first payment in mid-July, they started the process that day, the ring was done on August 31, he proposed the next day. Again this was a professional business so I’d guess that it would take longer if this designer isn’t.
But – my vote goes to go for it! Seems like the cons outweigh the pros on the Jared ring, and custom rings are great for the sentimental folks like you and I.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Custom! The setting will be made for your center stone, not a head dropped into the setting for your center stone. This should make it more secure. The wait will be worth it as it will also be a piece of you rather than a mass produced ideal.
We went custom :).
Post # 9
@dewingedpixie: Thanks for your input, our only option is to have her make the custom setting and then get the center stone dropped in the head (long story). Definitely not ideal. I guess my question to people who said custom would be if I don’t really want to change much on the setting (I think it is pretty much perfect) then why go custom?? I’m not sure what I would change about the setting if anything. Can anyone see something in the setting that they would change. The wedding band is not part of it (obviously)
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
@Lily_of_the_valley: The product will likely be better made.
Editted to add: My ring had no other option than custom. Though they have standard designs every ring is custom from where mine came from.
Post # 11
Sorry for the multiple posts and blowing up this thread but custom is something I never thought I would be doing and now I am SERIOUSLY considering it. Like I said in the original post, I am a little worried they will not be able to recreate the pave/milgrain detail around the band. From people’s experience has that been a problem?
Here is a side view of the Neil Lane setting: GORGE!
Post # 12
If you would be keeping the setting the same (i.e. nothing you WANT changed about it) I would just get it from Jared. I have a Neil Lane ring (from Kay) and love love love it. I know the store isn’t the best as far as customer service in the store, but you know what ring you want, you don’t have to deal with that crap. I just don’t see the point of making a copy of it using a jeweler who frankly, idk, I wouldn’t trust the quality of a random person.
Post # 13
If you would be keeping the setting the same (i.e. nothing you WANT changed about it) I would just get it from Jared. I have a Neil Lane ring (from Kay) and love love love it. I know the store isn’t the best as far as customer service in the store, but you know what ring you want, you don’t have to deal with that crap. I just don’t see the point of making a copy of it using a jeweler who frankly, idk, I wouldn’t trust the quality of a random person given the very intricate ring
Post # 14
I voted for the Neil Lane setting. Most of the experiences I’ve heard about involving a custom ring did not seem to turn out as the customers had originally envisioned, and I would rather have something I had seen and tried on and loved than I would something that currently is just a concept that someone else must still translate into my vision.
Post # 15
THAT is my favorite ring @ Jared!!!!
Post # 16
@Lily_of_the_valley: The ring is very pretty, but for reasons already mentioned my preference would be going custom with someone who is used to working with fine pave detail. Leon Mege, Victor Canera, or Steven Kirsch would be my recommendation. Make sure you can see examples of your jewler’s work, in a similar style, before making any decisions.
Also with a three-sided pave ring like that, it can be difficult/impossible to wear a wedding band unless you use a spacer. Just something to consider.