Nervous about Anniversary Photo shoot: Talk some sense into me, Bees.

posted 2 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

There’s a quote from Delta Burke that just clicked for me the first time I heard it, and I live by it now. To paraphrase, “I don’t want to put my life on hold until I lose weight.”

That quote just spoke to me. I’m good enough. Right now. As I am. Just because I’m fat doesn’t mean I don’t have a right to happiness, including the right have a picture taken of me, looking at myself in it, and liking what I see. I don’t have to be my “ideal weight” to enjoy looking at myself, seeing myself happy, etc. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think people have too many photo shoots these days and it sadly shifts the focus from the experience to the appearance.  Engagement, wedding, honeymoon, pregnancy, cake smash, birthdays, family shoots, anniversaries, etc.  And of course, everything must look perfect.  It’s not enough to host a child’s birthday party, it has to look Pinterest-worthy.  It’s not enough to simply be pregnant, you have to take pictures in a beautiful meadow with a cute outfit and professional hair, even though you might feel bloated and exhuasted.  (Like, if you’re paying somebody to take the pictures, they absolutely have to be flawless, right???!?)  

Maybe you really, really want a professional photo shoot, in which case other posts will be more helpful.  But I suggest taking a few home shots with your own digital camera, maybe a tripod, maybe ask a passerby to take one or two.  And let the photo be a reminder of when you felt so full of joy and gratitude, not the time when you had a flat stomach and ripped back.    

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

canadajane:  + 1,000.  Great post, and a wonderful perspective!!!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Overjoyed:  Yesterday a gal posted a link on the boards that I read http://www.rocknrollbride.com/2014/09/im-too-fat-to-have-photos-taken/

You are the perfect candidate to read this right now. The biggest thing that I got out of the article was that you never look at someone else’s photos (well, I don’t anyway, and I hope everyone is the same) and say, “Gosh, she’s fat.” You always look at hte photo and think, “Wow. That hairstyle was in in the 70s. Look at how cute her smile is” Etc. People do the same when they look at your photos. I have gotten myself into the mindset that, yeah, I’m not exactly where I want to be physically, but the way I smile at my son in photos or just the pure love is what makes the picture.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Overjoyed:  I struggle with this as well. For our wedding day, we’ll have plenty of pictures taken by friends and family, but I already told everyone not to show me them and to send them to me after we get back from our honeymoon. That way I can look at them when I’m ready and in a good place mentally. It’s the best solution I can come up with.

I’m fat, and I have been a yo-yo since I was a preteen. What I see in my head or even in the mirror rarely matches up with photos. Sometimes I’m much thinner than I thought, but the last few years, it’s unfortunately been on the opposite end of the spectrum. I feel good about who I am and even go shopping with no makeup on these days (gasp!), and I bought my first swimsuit in years last month and will happily waddle around a public pool with it on, but the photo problem remains.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Overjoyed:  Glad you found it to be a good read! I hope you have a fantastic time with your anniversary photos!

Post # 10
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Newbee

Congratulations on your anniversary, I hope you have a wonderful time on your trip!

When I am shooting people who are nervous or worried, may it be maternity or couples even people who are camera shy, I try to remind them why they are there, don’t think about how you look but rather how you feel, these moments are fleeting and having the chance to capture them on camera is a special gift. Don’t worry about how to pose just focus on your loved one, the love and passion in your eyes will captivate the viewer far more than the extra few pounds.

 If you are worried about getting into just the right position tell your photographer, if they are experienced they will be able to get you both into a comfortable position and then be able to tweak small details to get it just right. If you are comfortable with he/she touching you, let them know, when I get people who are particularly nervous I will position their hands, head etc into a good flattering position.

I am sure your pictures will turn out stunning the best thing a photographer can capture is pure joy and love it will always shine through!

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