Post # 1
Hi Bees – I have what I think to be an odd “problem”. I am so nervous about my bf proposing and how the moment will play out that I am worried I wont be able to enjoy our time out together until he proposes. It all started the other night when we were out to a very nice restaurant. He started talking about our past and saying very nice things…while I really didnt think this was the moment (ring isnt ready from jeweler), I became so nervous I felt like vomitting and/or fainting. I am not worried about the proposal turning out perfect or anything like that. I think I am nervous about the moment finally being upon me after so long (6 years of dating) that I wont be able “handle” the excitement.
I know this sounds silly, but I am worried I wont be able to enjoy not only our future dates but more importantly, the Big Moment due to my stomach turning, vomit inducing, anticipation issues! How did it all go down for you guys who have already been proposed to? Where you able to enjoy the moment or were you too “nervous”?
Post # 3
You will be fine. Thinking of the stomach turning more as butterflies. Its such an exciting time and an exciting moment. You may or may not know when the exact moment is so stopping worrying about if its the moment, you’ll know when it happens. For me it was a little bit of an out of body expeirence. I kept thinking “oh my god, this is my engagment. this is a big moment in my life, so this is how it happens” Its weird to be in a moment and know its a big life changing moment. Usually you don’t realize that until later. Hoenstly it happened so fast I didn’t have time to be nervous. I was in shock for about a 1/2 hour
Post # 4
Before my FI proposed I was a little nervous about it. I was worried that I was going to do something wrong, or I was going to accidently smack the ring box out of his hand and it would go flying. But when he actually proposed I wasn’t nervous I had butterflies in my stomach because of excitement (well they were more like terradactyls in my stomach.) Don’t worry about it, it will be perfect. If you do something funny (like throw the ring box to the side, tackle your fiance while screaming YES, and then asking “Is this real life” like I did) then it will be something you can look back on and laugh about.
Post # 5
Relax! Unless you have some problems with controlling your bowels when you get too excited, you’ll be fine! After all is said and done, you’ll remember the moment fondly, not how sweaty your palms were or how you knocked over the wine glass.
Post # 6
30 seconds before the actual proposal, my FI ALMOST proposed. I got really anxious when I thought “this might be it, OMG.” I walked on, got myself under control and then he proposed!
I don’t think FI realized why I walked on when he tried to propose that first time. I think he just thought I had no clue what was happening.
It’s OK to be nervous!
Post # 7
Think of it this way. You’re already engaged, you know you’re going to get married, he’s just giving you the ring. Like opening a Christmas present you know you asked for. Easy Peasy.
Post # 8
When my FI proposed it happened so quickly and was so out of the blue I didn’t have time to really react to what was going on. I just remember turning around and seeing him on one knee and me instantly shaking and starting to cry… It was so perfect and I love that it was a surprise… Although I was shaking for about a half hour and was completely in shock for more than a couple DAYS. It only just started sinking in over the weekend!
So my advice is to just relax and stop trying to anticipate it, you and him will enjoy it more when you aren’t expecting it. 🙂 You will be fine!
Post # 9
I don’t have any advice, but if you do puke or faint when he proposes, it will make an interesting story for your children and grandkids someday!!
Post # 10
You aren’t nervous, you’re excitied! Just smile or laugh when you start to feel overwhelmed. Dance aroud the house, jump up and down like a kid on christmas eve – go outside alone and scream if you have to! Just let it out so that it isn’t so overwhelming and then enjoy the excitied happy butterflies until the time comes.
I’m sure that you will be fine when the actual big moment arrives, just focus on him, how much you love him and what he is saying. 🙂