Nervous about dress shopping

posted 3 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
1397 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Try on lots and it is ok not to love yourself in every dress.  I am a bridal size 8, and I hated how I looked in so many dresses.  Keep your spirits and energy up it might take some time to find the one you love, but you will it just might take a few shops.

Post # 4
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@2beemrs:  wear what you plan to be wearing the day of the wedding (shoes, shapwear, strapless bra) and bring a hair tie so you can compare the dress with your gair up or down. It will be fine and I am sure you will choose a dress that makes you look/feel beautiful 🙂

Post # 5
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@2beemrs:  Don’t be nervous, be excited!!  I can understand where you’re coming from, though — I’m not plus size (more of an 8) but I was way nervous too.  I think no matter your body shape, dress shopping is nerve-wracking.  There’s a lot of pressure on the “PERFECT DRESS” and having the shopping part be this magical, tear-inducing, PERFECT DAY.

I carry my pudge in my middle too, but oddly I found that mermaid/trumpet styles looked best.  A lot of these dresses have such structure and boning that they can give you a figure you’d never have guessed you could have. 

You’re going to be beautiful, and I’d bet money that it’s going to be a lot more fun than you think.  I mean how often do you get to try on these gorgeous dresses?! 

Best of luck! 

Post # 6
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park

If you find a dress you like, be sure to take pictures to see how it looks. Most dresses look different in pictures than they do in reality. Also definitely listen to the previous bees who commented. Try on a lot of dresses and don’t get down on yourself because when you find that one dress, you will forget all the bad ones before it. GOOD LUCK AND HAVE FUN! Your wedding is the one time in an adult’s life you are actually allowed to play dress up

Post # 7
6632 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do not get discouraged if you are unable to zip or get the back of the dress you try on closed. As a plus size woman many of the dresses you will try on more than likely will not be the correct size.

I am also the same size as you, many of the dresses I tried on we were unable to zip or get tied because the dress was much smaller. I was able to squeeze myself into but no way could we close the dress.

Definately try many dresses on, go out of your comfort zone for style. 

Post # 8
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I wear an 18/20 in street clothes – my wonderful consultant was able to help me get into pretty much anything sized at a bridal 12/14 or up – they have lots of creative ways for you to see a dress on!

I went to 1 ‘big box’ store like a DB and didn’t love the experience.  Found a small boutique in the area and had an amazing woman help me so maybe try that.

Just remember to relax and have fun – also try on things you aren’t sure you like on the hanger!  The dress that ended up being ‘the one’ for me I hated on the hanger! 🙂

Post # 9
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I second the idea of looking at smaller companies/boutiques that may be more likely to understand and care about your concerns 🙂

Try your very best to have a light-hearted attitude going into the day, and go easy on yourself. I think self-affirmation is a good idea as well. Remind yourself: “I am a BEAUTIFUL person and will be a BEAUTIFUL bride.” 🙂

Post # 10
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Bartram's Garden

I teeter on the plus-sized scale, and I had some really affirming dress experiences, and some really awful ones as well.  Honestly, as long as you keep your head in the game, you should be just fine.  Don’t get discouraged by one unsupportive consultant, or one shop that doesn’t care about us bigger girls.  I found my dress last week– I was popping out all over the place in the sample size, but when you know, you know!  Wound up ordering a size 18 and paying an extra $200 for it too, but at that point it doesn’t even matter.  Keep it in mind though, if you have a strict budget! 

Post # 11
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@2beemrs:  I am not the same size, but my dress was pretty true to size. However, there are many brides where their bridal gown ran almost 4-6 sizes bigger than that they are, so don’t worry about the “size” of it. Be concerned with how you FEEL in it. Make sure to bring all your accessories if you have any, especially your shoes or at least wear some jewelry.

I promise you will find something to fits your body type and looks great on you. And the Bee loves voting on wedding dresses, so this is a great place to post some pics 🙂

Post # 12
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

i am a street size 16, but due to the size of my chest, had to buy my dress in a 20. my DB experience was horrible…but i went to a smaller local store and had a much better experience. true to my expectation, some of the dresses made me look like a HOUSE, but some made me feel so beautiful. and when i found MY dres…it was the best feeling ever!

Post # 13
2 posts

My advice – try your best to enjoy the experience and, whatever you do, do NOT let the comments of people you hardly know colour your experience negatively. I am struggling with this after finding my dream dress yesterday – Let me explain my nightmare-of-a-first-wedding-dress-shopping experience: at the first shop I had one helpful lady assisting me but then this other one, who didn’t even introduce herself, swooped in and picked up a dress to recommend and at first I thought that was nice BUT when I asked her what size the dress she recommended was, she simply responded “big.” I am curvy in all the right places but I do wear a larger size, I range between a size 10-14 generally – that is NOT an appropriate response. I asked for the SIZE which is a NUMBER. This was not a miscommunication between languages, which I would have forgiven. This woman’s English was perfect. So unprofessional, made me very upset (all brides are meant to feel beautiful on their dress shopping day!) This is still raw as it was just yesterday but at my third store I found the perfect dress. I still came home and cried to my fiance which he was so sad about and I wish that didn’t have to happen because of one insensitive incomprehensible comment. If anyone reading this lives in Toronto, Ontario, Canada, NEVER go to Diva Boutique. I found my dream dress an hour and 30 minutes away in a boutique that has the motto “where all brides are beautiful” – now that’s a motto I can get behind! 

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