Nervous about finalizing a venue….

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

If you are on a strict budget I say take the free hall. Invite those truly only close to you. You will find as hard as you try to stretch your $ it all adds up fast. and yes, more guest you have, more $ goes up. Do you really, really really need to invite over 100 People? You might be close to them but think about how intimate you want your wedding and special that will really be. It is all in how you look at it. I am having a just us two wedding and we are both surprised at how much it still cost.  And I look at SO and say how much more it would cost to have x amount of people.  Good luck. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I think in this situation you have to ask what’s most important. Saving money or having a hall that will allow all your guest to be comfortable. If the hall holds 100 though I don’t think it will be so bad since that is what the hall is meant to hold, right?  I don’t see a venue saying they can have up to 100 people and then it be to small that would be against code. Do you have pictures of the hall?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I would stick with the free hall especially if you are trying to save money. A patio offers great space and you have to remember as the night goes on people will trickle out. Thats just my opinion though. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

trayeaton:  I think you’ll be fine with the free venue that holds 100….as long as you don’t have more than 100 guests. They typically set guest limits with mingling room in mind.

btw…I am also a Michigan bride!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I’m in the intimate wedding camp, I’m having 80 people.  Telling our parents that we have an 80 person cap has been a great way to keep the guest list under control…close family, friends, and family friends only.  Having fewer people will enable you to enjoy the company of the people that you do invite more and will enable you to enjoy your event and each other more.  Oh and 80 or 100 people is still a lot of people!

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

tglover0725:  I would take the offer on the free hall. One thing I learned quickly is when it comes to weddings, or any sort of event where you have to pay per person, $$ adds up quicker than the speed of light. Invite those who are closest to you. 

When we planned our wedding we immediately ruled out extended family. We made a list of the must invites, and then we had a list of people we would possibly invite if our budget allowed it. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would do the free hall.  You’ll have to make your family RSVP.  A wedding is much different than another type of family gathering.  People don’t RSVP and it is obnoxious, but it always happens and you have to try to get a hold of them.  It definitely wouldn’t be tacky to have 100 people in a room that holds 100.  People would be forced to mingle more and honestly they would probably have more fun.  

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

tglover0725:  I attended a wedding this summer at a historic venue in a small town, and due to fire codes, they were very strict about going over capacity. There was someone at the door who checked the guest list, and only those who had RSVP-ed were allowed to enter the building. No extra guests. It was strict, and maybe someone would have been offended if they weren’t allowed to enter, but really that would have been their fault for not responding courteously. Maybe you can do something similar? It wasn’t a hassle for those of us who had RSVP-ed.

I feel you on the family not RSVP-ing for anything, as my DH warned me about this as well. We had to make numerous phone calls to find out from people if they were coming or not. One family told us a very firm no (we called again before the catering count deadline to DOUBLE CHECK), and then showed up the wedding weekend anyway. They traveled cross-country (how do you even plan these things last minute?! lol). So extras can happen even if you try to prevent it. They were apologetic but we couldn’t change the meal count 2 days before the wedding per our contract, and 4 extra people would have required an extra table, new seating chart, etc. They came to the ceremony and not to the reception (and said they were happy to do so). I felt terrible, but you have to know these things aren’t your fault. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

tglover0725:  Very pretty for a ceremony. We are getting married in Birmingham at The Community House.

If you are worried about people not RSVP-ing I would make sure not to invite more than 100 people. You will probably also be force to call several people and ask if they are coming like PP have said.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

jamb:  

This is true. I don’t consider 100 guests to be a small wedding at all. 

tglover0725:  

Surely you should take the free hall if you are on a strict budget. 

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