nervous about leaving home..anyone feel the same way?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@cadi12345:  

I am also kind of nervous. 

My SO and I are going to wait till marraige before we move in with each other. 

Im 23 and still live with my parents and he still lives with his, due to college expenses. I think I’m more nervous about doing things on my own, Im scared when it comes to bills or anything similar to that, Im going to mess up. Im still on a lot of my parents things, Im still on their vehicle insurance plan, im still on their phone plan, they take care of my vehicle tag renewal, all I have to do is give them the money or whatever and they do the rest. Im nervous about not knowing what to do with the bills come due, etc.

Im also afraid that once I move out, Ill want to go back home.  

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think most people are nervous when they leave home for the first time – I know I was nervous when I went away to college! I think it’s an important transition for all involved, though. Both you and your mom need to live independent lives that you learn to fill on your own!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@crayfish:  

@cadi12345:  Yes, I was nervous going to college and then when I got my own place. It is scary but it’s also really exciting. It will work out just fine. We all figure it out in the end.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

@cadi12345:  I think under the circumstances this is completely normal. Since your mom will be close by, you will be able to see her as often as you like. Don’t be nervous! Be excited! Good luck to you

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I couldn’t wait to get out. We moved in about 6 months after we got together, and haven’t gone back. 😀

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I was nervous when I first moved out (alone at the age of 25) it was a huge change not living under the same roof as my family….and i worked with them so still saw them 5 days a week!

Under your circumstances, with the additional worry about leaving your Mum on her own I can only imagine.

As other have said, it will do both of you good. But maybe, while you get used to it you might like to set aside one night a week to have a family meal with your Mum, either she cooks, or you do. So that you have a regular night together. When I moved out I used to go home every thursday night (or to the local pub for dinner) with my family. It was great, we dont do it now. But we kept it up for a year.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay

I’m a little nervous like you and in the same boat age wise. Though my parents are still together. I am extremely used to living life as a family unit (my parents and brother all live together along with another gentleman that at this point might as well be another brother. lol!) I am beyond ready to move out and know I can manage my own bills just fine, just don’t know if WE can manage OUR bills. Lol luckily I will also love close to home and plan to come home regularly. I worry that I might get sucked into his family since we’d be living in their guest house till we can afford to find a place. So I think its perfectly normal. Even though I’m ready I’m still nervous for it. 😛

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@cadi12345:  Nope you aren’t alone… I lived with my parents and brother until I got married (just short of 22) and then moved across country (12 hour drive) for my job and my husband’s job. To be honest it has been the best and worst experience of my life, nearly two years in I still miss my family so much but it has also being a great experience in that I have been able to learn a lot about myself and our relationship. Both our marriage and my own personality were tested by the move but we’ve grown so much individually and as a couple. I still speak to my parents at least twice a week and go visit whenever I can.

So I wouldn’t worry too much about being 15 mins away, things will change but I suspect they will change for the better.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I moved out of my parents house when I was 18, but my father passed away after that and I moved back to my hometown to be closer to my mom.  I’m not the only child, but I am the only daughter and I know my mom talks to me about things she wouldn’t open up to my brothers about.  It’s been six and a half years since my father passed away, but I still worry about my mom being lonely.  She is a shy person, but I’ve encouraged her to get more involved at her church and with hobbies she enjoys.  When she told me that she would be open to dating recently, I’ve been fully supportive because I just want her to be happy.  You can still be supportive and there for your mom even though you don’t live with her.  Invite her over once a week for dinner, encourage her to engage in social activities or hobbies.  My mom has two dogs, teaches a class at her church, and takes exercise classes regularly, so she’s met people there as well.  I’ve encouraged her to join a book club or take a cooking class, things like that.  Call her regularly and see her regularly to make sure she has company and knows you love her and that you’re putting in effort to be in her life and include her in yours.  The other thing that my mom loves is that we have a cabin on a lake and a boat, so she and Mr. S and I go down regularly.  She loves the lake and that she has someone to go with.  She doesn’t want to “tag along” with us too often when we take friends down to the lake with us, but I let her know she is welcome to and sometimes she comes too.  If you work on having a healthy balance, she will appreciate the effort and maybe it will help her find her own social outlets that she enjoys, too!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m not married, but I remember when I moved away to college after high school, 3 hours away from home, I was so terrified I couldn’t eat for weeks. I was completely uprooted and placed in this strange place with all new people. Moving out can be hard at first, but you aren’t going to be that far away and you’ll be with your wonderful husband. Now I live 30 minutes from my parents with my boyfriend and we keep in touch with our parents via phonecalls (and facetiming is great if you have an iPhone) and try to visit home when we can to have dinner and spend time with them. You’ll be fine 🙂

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