Post # 1
Alright, well first of all this is the first post I am ever starting… for some reason it makes me a little nervous.
Here’s my situation. I am “waiting” as you all put it. (I am not quite used to the “jargon” yet)
I have picked out my ring. He has the setting on layaway and hasn’t picked out the ring yet. I, however, am not supposed to know that the setting is on layaway. Boys sometimes aren’t very smart, and he left the receipt out where I clean regularly. I don’t plan on every telling him that I knew. I still play dumb.
He won’t tell me anything in regards to the ring or the proposal. I am notorious for trying to get things out of him. I am horrible in regards to presents or surprises or any kind. He wants to make the proposal a surprise, and so do I, but I have to admit it’s hard!
I’m worried though about how I might react to him proposing. He told me it’ll be within the year. I feel like I’m constantly waiting for it, although at this point I shouldn’t be since I know it won’t be TOO soon. I have been reading all the posts about proposals and people crying and what not. I am a very emotional person and wouldn’t be surprised if I cry. The reason I’m worried about my reaction though is since I know it’s coming. I’m afraid I won’t be as excited or surprised as I want to be.
I feel like I’m rambling here. Maybe someone has some insight? If not… I guess just thanks for “listening”
Post # 3
Don’t worry! Even if you don’t cry it’s not the end of the world. I didn’t cry & I SORT OF knew it was coming, I just didn’t know when. I mean yes, in a way it does take some of the surprise out of it, but it will still be special so just relax & think about it to yourself & smile knowing that you will be engaged soon!
Post # 4
Don’t worry. Even if you arent SUPER surprised, i think that you will be so happy that he won’t know the difference!
Post # 5
ditto everyone else.. and i cried and was the one proposing lol!!! you’ll have so many emotions going through you at that moment that it’ll be ridiculously insane.
Post # 6
Thanks for the support ladies. I probably will be emotional and just can’t even imagine it yet.
By The Way… I meant that he hadn’t picked out the diamond yet. First post jitters got to me 😉
Post # 7
Oh, also – WELCOME! I got distracted by the rest of the post & forgot to say that lol.
Post # 8
Um… I totally knew it was coming and wasn’t that surprised, and I was still thrilled! I mean I guess I didn’t have that shocked-holy-hell-what-the-oh-my-god moment… it was more like OMG FINALLY YES. 🙂
Post # 9
You are going to be SO excited that even if you aren’t surprised, he won’t be able to tell the difference!
Post # 10
it’s going to be a surprise so just let the emotions flow as they will. there’s no way of predicting how you’ll react so don’t worry about it. just enjoy the moment!
@crebre, your reaction was like the episode of friends when monica proposes to chandler. all i can think is “this is why girl’s don’t do this!” lol. obviously they do.
Post # 11
We had talked about it a lot and I had been very vocal about it happening (which I kinda regret but at the time I was a bit nuts about it at the time LOL) so I knew it was going to happen soon. The difference was that the fella knew I’d know what was coming the moment he did something out of the ordinary (dinner, picnic whatever) so he waited til I got home from class one day, it had been raining and the legs of my jeans were wet so I stripped off my pants and got into bed (seems to be a common thing with me!) and we were sitting around talking about how great we were together and what our future was going to be like and he just came out and asked me. It WAS completely unexpected cos there was no production – just a very natural moment, very sweet and we both got a bit misty! It was super cute and lovely and very “us” especially as I was proposed to in my undies! LOL
I know it’s not ideal, but maybe you should let your fella know you know, that way he can come up with something that may give you your suprise! Anyhoo, congratulations on the upcoming engagement!
Post # 12
Try not to worry – i’m sure when it does happen it will be perfect! Even though you are expecting it I think you will be more suprised than you think.
Like others have said try to enjoy the moment but also the time leading up to it! Although I am trying to do this at the moment and it can be harder said than done.
Post # 13
aww, try not to worry about it, even though you’re expecting it, i’m sure once it happens your emotions will be all over the place that it’ll be like you forgot u knew, plus you don’t know how he’s going to do it, etc, how exciting for you!!
Post # 14
Don’t stress about it! I knew Fiance had paid for the ring, I picked it out, and knew around when it would be ready and was still COMPLETELY surprised. I didn’t even know what to say when it happened, and “shut up” shot out of my mouth.
It’s sweet that he wants it to be so much a surprise though, he must be trying to plan something special for you. And this is the best place to be, you can vent and obsess on here instead of bothering him!
Post # 15
I kind of had a feeling it was coming soon since we were going out of town for a romantic weekend but once we got there I no longer thought it would happen since I didn’t think he was very good at surprises and he was acting so normal. Well he proposed in the hotel room and I was still SO surprised and started crying immediatley, which I didn’t think I would do. I think he got a little teary eyed too but then we both started laughing. It was such an intense and emotional moment from crying to laughing. Then I managed to get out, “This means we are getting MARRIED”! He confirmed that yes, it did indeed mean we were getting married, lol. So I still think you will have a great reaction even if you suspect a little bit 🙂
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
welcome – i was nervous for my first post too! i can be VERY emotional and I cry at, well, just about every movie ever and is my general go-to reaction. however, when he proposed, i started giggling (it was a surprise but i’d be lying if i said i had no idea…), giggling so much that he said, “well, so?” and then i said yes…no reaction is right or wrong – it is just what is!