Post # 1
I have an on/off case of Baby fever. My son is 10 months old and I am having baby fever but I get nervous to start trying for baby number 2 for a few reasons 1) Baby #1 is still young and I wonder how I will cope with 2 little ones, however, we do want kids close together and I am 34 so sooner rather than later is better 2) I was pregnant in 2 cycles with my son but it still took a while because cycle 1 was 90 days long, so if I have irregular cycles ( so far PP, I do) I want to get going as it could take awhile 3) I go back to work in May, so I don’t know how that will go re:daycare, sleeping through the night, however, It might be nice to have the 1st trimester out of the way before I go back to work and can nap and relax during the day 4) My son is a pretty easy going baby, but I still wonder how another baby will affect him, but this is a now or later question as we always wanted more than one child DH is pretty easy going, he wants another baby, and he very readily agreed when I suggested I get my IUD out last month. I think I am ovulating right now and DH is out of town so no chance this month, but I was thinking about actively trying next cycle providing DH agrees I don’t think I was this nervous when we tried the first time. Anyone else in the same situation? Trying for #2? Have experiences to share?
This topic was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by Vitafilm.
Post # 2
I have a DD that is 2, and like you am starting to be “baby fever”. I have friends who have children literally 2 years apart, and while they find it challenging at times I think it is just part of the mama territory. It will be nice that once your kids get a little bigger they will be friends and have similar interests! Also, your son will change SO SO SO much in the next 9 months. He will be able to walk, follow simple commands, and communicate what he needs which will change how much he needs you now. So while you may be short on sleep for a little while, it will still be manageable. Do you have a good support system? People who can help you so you can get some rest?
For us, we wanted more space between our kids for financial reasons- daycare costs SO much money, that I really only want one child in care at a time. I am younger, 27, so I don’t feel the pressure.
I think you should go with your feelings on this 🙂
Post # 3
Thanks for the reply!
We have amazing family support, both sides are in town and willing to look after our baby when I go back to work or pretty much anytime we ask. So we would only need partime daycare.
I guess it is like everything big and life changing, there is bound to be some nerves about changing the current situation
Post # 4
Different child spacing works for different people, but I very much preferred having my children relatively close together. My first two were 28 months apart, and my second and third were 20 months apart (I was aiming for two years in between in both cases). When we were done having babies, I wanted to be DONE and not have to revisit sleepless nights, diapers, pulling out the crib and stroller and carseats again, etc. And while this certainly doesn’t always happen, and may have more to do with the personalities of the children involved, my kids are VERY close. They are all two years apart in school, which works out really well.
My mum had me 4-1/2 years after my sister, and I cannot imagine having one out of diapers and almost in school and then beginning again. I think babies around two years apart are ideal (at least for me they were).