- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
During the entire planning process my plan was to just use copy-and-paste vows like the ceremony was going to be. But yesterday I wanted to have our own personallized ceremony and we would be writing our own vows with about a month to go!
The ceremony was done in no time and I finished it this morning during the slow time at work… it is the vows that are bugging me. FI and I both agreed we wouldn’t copy other stuff off of the internet and we would just let it come out naturally as we write them. I am practically finished. I have a nice introduction about the silly story of meeting in high school, then I go into what I love about our relationship and how I will always be there with him, and I finish it off with a quote from Winnie the Pooh about how we’ll always be together. The entire theme of mine is basically being there for him no matter what.
I was very proud of what I had written and it hit me like a brick wall – I have social anxiety and I have never really been someone to verbalize my feelings to people. Whenever I do verbalize my feelings to FI it is never that detailed and sappy PLUS no one else is in the area when I say things like that. Now we will be standing in front of our friends and family and I’ll need to spill my heart out in front of them, it is terrifying. I remember that it is the reason we were going to go with traditional vows in the first place – so it can be all “repeat after me” and there is no extra emotional reveals.
I have one more week to finalize how our vows are going to go and I don’t know what to do. Is it normal for brides to be terrified to say their personal vows in front of everyone?