Nervous for wedding next May…mother passed away in January.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4568 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@SoccerBee86:  Iam deeply sorry for your loss. i lost my grandmother about 15 years ago. and i know thats a long time but it feels like yesterday that we lost her. i lived with her and my mother all my life so this was a very different kind of grandma/granddaughter relationship. my mother has always been with me too so i grew up with 2 mothers and it breaks my heart that my grandmother will not be there the day i get married. doing a tribute to lost loved ones would be too much for me and my FH ( he lost his grandfather) he feels its a celebration not a wake. we should be happy that day and not so sad. so i bought a brooch with her initial to attach to my bouquet and i’m using the lace from her wedding dress to wrap my bouquet in. im so sorry you lost your mom. me personally i think it would be too hard the day of my wedding to do a tribute to my grandmother its been 15 years ( im tearing now just thinking about it) i would uncontrollably lose it. i love and miss her so much. theres not a day that goes by that i dont think about her.

Post # 4
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109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m so sorry about your mom.  I lost my mom a year and a half ago.  She knew my fiance but didn’t know he’d end up being “the one”. 

I talked it over with my dad and we aren’t doing a tribute or writing “The Late Mrs. ___” on anything.  It’s too sad.  We want the day to be happy, not to be crying over her.  Not saying we won’t miss her the entire time and wish she was there, words can’t describe how much I miss her. 

I am doing little subtle things to honor her.  I’m wearing her engagement ring on my right hand and putting a single sterling (purple) rose in my bouquet of pink and ivory.  My father will also be wearing a sterling rose.  Unless you look really closely at my jewelry, bouquet or my dad’s boutonniere, you won’t know they are for her.  Do things for yourself.  Whatever makes you feel comfortable to honor her. 

Remember, she’s a big part of you but it’s YOUR day. 

Post # 5
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4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@SoccerBee86:  I’m so sorry for your loss sweetie. DH’s dad was the only father I’ve ever known, and he passed away last November from a brain aneurysm. We were supposed to be getting married in August, but we eloped on May 3. It was hard with Kim (my father in law) not being there, but we knew he was there in spirit. 

 

I understand the desire to have lots of tributes, but I would recommend keeping it simple. If you have TONS of pictures and other things to remind you that that your mom isn’t there, you won’t be able to quit crying. I actually sewed a piece of Kim’s firesuit (car racing) onto the inside of my dress in the shape of a heart. That way he was with me, but there weren’t visual reminders everywhere to bring up extra emotion. 

You will never stop missing your mom, but it will get easier to deal with, I promise. 

 

If you need to chat, you can always PM me. 🙂 Welcome to Weddingbee! 

 

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