Post # 1
Hey girls, I am getting married December 3, 2011. I was wondering if anyone had suggestions about being nervous. I am a very shy, quite person. I get so nervous in front of crowds, or when I’m meeting someone new. I hate to walk into a large room of people; I don’t like to draw attention to myself. When I get nervous my heart races 1000 miles a minute and my hands shake and get clammy. I am expecting around 100 guests at my wedding. I know I am going to be a nervous wreck and so irritable. My fiancés uncle makes homemade wine; my mom and I joked about me needing a glass before I walked down the aisle. I am getting married in a church though. Joking aside, does anyone have suggestions to help calm me? I’ve been on anti-anxiety medication before but I’m afraid it will cause weight gain. I hate that I get so scared and nervous at little things (and big things).
Post # 3
Since you will be at the church and perhaps a drink isn’t your thing, try finding a quiet space before your ceremony to collect your thoughts and get into a good breathing pattern.
If you getting walked down the aisle by someone, ask them to quietly chat with you or squeeze your hand intermittently, something to keep you focused on.
If you are prescribed medicine, im sure just taking it for you wedding wouldn’t have you blow up for the day. Test it out now in advance to gauge your reaction for using the pill on an as needed basis.
Everyone gets nervous on their big day, just embrace it and know it will go by in the blink of an eye!
Post # 4
I am sharing this emotion with you. My wedding isn’t until July of next year and I’m already having semi panic attacks over it =/ I have heard many tips and I guess some that work are: Think of something funny while you’re walking down, think about the honeymoon/things you’re looking forward to when the vows are over, make sure whoever walking you down the aisle can keep you distracted with small talk and even jokes. Laughing helps me soo much. I am also a big fan of herbal supplements, rather than medication. I had severe anxiety a few years ago and herbals got me through. When I’m nervous I’ll put a few Hyland’s Calm’s Forte under my tongue, or some Similisan… or both. Those are so calming! You can get those online or at your local drug store and Wal-Mart. I have also found Valerian Root and Passionflower to be helpful, you can find those cheap at http://www.puritanspride.com Good luck!
Post # 5
… and breathing! Take long, even breaths. Count to five with you breathe in and count to five when you exhale. It’ll keep your heart rate down and distract you.
Post # 6
Thanks for the advice girls!!
Pinksapphire – I’ve never really tried herbal supplements but I think I will give your suggestions a try!
Post # 7
I feel the same way. I actually have to do this twice as we’re having both an English and an Asian wedding to honour both our heritages. The English one makes me nervous enough as I have to walk in a room with everyone looking at me, but the Asian one I have to sit on a stage in front of hundreds of people I don’t know. Very scary!
I have to convince myself to enjoy it, luckily I have a whole year to convince myself, but I hate being the centre of attention eek!
Post # 8
I am feeling the same way right now (I have out of town guests visiting today and I feel almost sick about it).
Suggestions I have heard from other people – make a list of the worst things that could possibly happen, why they are unlikely to happen, what you would do next. Alot of feeling nervous (for me anyway) is just not being able to plan for all contingencies. This step makes me feel like I have some control over it.
Second, ask your doctor for some low dose anxiety pills. I am going to try to go next week and see how it turns out. You have enough time before the wedding to try them out and make sure there are no side effects. Perhaps you can find something you can take intermittenly and not daily, so the wt gain will not be an issue.
I wish I had more advice, I feel the same way.
Post # 9
Second, ask your doctor for some low dose anxiety pills.
I did that too and my doc gave me .5 mg xanax. It is very helpful and I have suffered with pretty severe panic attacks my entire life.