(Closed) Nervous to announce engagement

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mrs-evans:  I wasnt nervous…I couldnt wait to tell everyone!…is there a part of you that thinks that maybe it isnt the right thing to do?

Post # 4
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9143 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Write down a list of reasons why you are nervous.  It’s not necessarily a bad thing but you need to get to the bottom of it because it could be an indication that you aren’t ready for marriage or you know he may not be the one.  I instantly felt awful after saying yes to my first fiance and I was so terrified to tell my parents that I hid my ring from them and carried it around in the box for a few weeks.  We ended up separating a few months later.  He jsut wasn’t the one and it took the proposal for me to realize it.

Post # 6
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1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@mrs-evans:  I was really happy and excited to tell everyone. Do your family and friends like your FI? I can’t imagine being nervous…Excited, yes. But not nervous. Enjoy yourself!

Post # 7
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9143 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I’m sorry but it sounds like you are doing what other people expect you to do rather than what you yourself wants to do and your nervousness is a symptom of that.

Post # 9
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2640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@mrs-evans:  Oh my God! I felt exactly the same way!!! We didn’t tell anyone for at least a month! Partly, it was nice to have our little secret, but partly it was because it was very overwhelming! I wouldnt even let DH propose to me because it was too overwhelming. Everybody’s different. Enjoy your little secret and once the news is out there (I made my mom tell everyone mine!) enjoy the excitement 🙂

Post # 10
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2640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@mrs-evans:  Seriously, don’t worry about it. Everyone will react in a different way. Im not shy or anything but at the same time don’t like thr attention being on me and telling news like that can be quite intense (even if it’s good it can be a lot to take in). Doesn’t mean you don’t love each other less than any other couple Or that there are any problems!!

Post # 12
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2686 posts
Sugar bee

It’s ok to be nervous, this is a big announcement for you and you want everyone to be happy about the news.  I was a little nervous about telling my FI’s family because they’ve had some issues with my FSIL’s husband (I won’t get into details).  But things went really well for us and everyone was really excited.  Just take a deep breath and you’ll be fine.  The important thing is you’re getting married! 🙂

Post # 13
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683 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I totally get the nervous feeling. FI and I waited 3 days before we finally called up our families. Funny thing was he proposed on Christmas eve and we were with both of our families the following days and we didn’t make a peep of it.

As for friends most of them found out through word of mouth since we pretty much waited to tell everyone in person.

I totally agree with the sentiment that its just nice to have something between the two of you before its announced and made into everyone elses business. Take as much time as you need to let it sink and and savor the feeling(s). When youre ready you guys will know.

Congrats!

Post # 14
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I totally know how you feel. Like, I was really excited, and I knew that other people would be really excited, but I was still nervous to tell people! I threw it on Facebook lmao. We called his mom and brother ASAP, went to his dad’s house and told them in person, and told my grandparents in person. Everyone was really happy, but it was still nerve-wracking.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@mrs-evans:  i get what you mean – when i got into law school i was nervous for some reason too! i think it just felt like a HUGE and permanent and very adult thing, it was something that changed everything – and i was SO excited but also nervous. 

 

i also struggle a bit with anxiety – so don’t worry – you’re normal! some people just get nervous to make big annoucements/don’t like being the centre of attention/don’t love change. 

it’s fine – once you tell everyone your nervousness will evaporate i’m sure. congrats!

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mrs-evans:  I can see where you’re coming from. You’ll have all the attention focused on you, so I can see why you’d be nervous. I don’t even like making phone calls, so saying “oh and by the way, I just made a huge, life-changing decision” is tough. I am already worried about announcing my pregnancy, to tell you the truth… and I am not even planning on getting pregnant for another 2-3 years at least! Lol.

Lots of wedding sites these days advise to enjoy the engagement (just the two of you) for a couple of days precisely because it is special and it’s nice to have it as your little secret. It’s nice to enjoy that just engaged glow without being bombarded with “When you getting married?! How did he propose?! Can I see the ring?!” questions!

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