Post # 1
Bees, let me preface this by asking that you keep any rude comments to yourself, and please don’t assume that my husband and I “haven’t thought this through” because I’m having a whirlwind of emotions. Thanks in advance… 🙂
So. DH and I have decided (as of last night, after lots of deliberation) that I’m going to get my IUD taken out on July 1st. That idea was just lovely about 4 weeks ago, when July seemed an eternity away. But now, when I actually need to CALL my doctor to make an appointment because July 1st is in a few short weeks? HOLY CRAP. I’m nervous to even pick up the phone.
I have so many thoughts swirling through my head. Even though we’ve talked about it, prayed about it, sought the wisdom of others, etc. etc., I STILL have butterflies about actually trying. Some women tell me that’s normal and some say it means we should wait. So I’m not looking for another one of those opinions. Ha!
Here’s a small comparision to show you guys how I feel. When I was about 5, I was JUST tall enough to ride an amusement park ride that took you way up in the sky and then dropped you super fast. I thought it looked SO cool and fun and I begged my dad to get in line with me. Each time we saw the ride drop down while we were in line, I got increasingly nervous. By the time we were getting buckled in to ride, my heart was pounding and I had butterflies in my stomach and I couldn’t stop biting my nails. But I had fun, and the ride was over in 90 seconds. I was glad I did it!
I feel the EXACT same way I did as I was being buckled into that ride. The only difference is – what I’m preparing for isn’t a 90-second ride, it’s a LIFELONG commitment.
I guess this is mostly just a way for me to rant about my emotions. I don’t even know what kind of “advice” I would be seeking because I’ve sought SO much advice already.
I’m obviously excited at the prospect of starting our family, but I’m nervous too! Not that I think I’ll be a bad parent or won’t be ready, but simply because it’s SUCH a big change. I have this sad fear in the back of my mind that when I get a BFP, I will think it’s too soon and want to go back. But there’s NO going back. I don’t know what’s wrong with me! I didn’t feel this way until today! Keep in mind, today is the day I’m supposed to call and make the appointment to get my IUD out. SHEW…
Post # 2
TogetherThroughLife: I think it would be crazy if you weren’t nervous! I was (and still am) in a similar position. After dealing with crazy side effects from the pill, and much discussion with my husband, we decided to stop any form of BC in February just a month after our wedding and just use the POM until we were ready to start trying. In that process, we also had discussed the possibility of an “oops!” and getting pregnant before we had planned on it, and when an “oops” didn’t happen in the first two months, we both realized how much we actually wanted a baby and decided to start trying. Now that we’re actually trying, not a day goes by that I don’t start questioning it a bit. It’s a HUGE, life-changing decision and I think that being nervous and scared is a normal reaction that proves you understand just how big of a deal a baby actually is. I mostly compare it to the nerves I had leading up to our wedding – I knew without a doubt that my husband is the only man for me and I couldn’t wait to spend my life with him, but I was still a bundle of nerves on the big day! Not sure how much this post will help with your nerves, but I wanted to let you know you definitely aren’t alone 🙂
Post # 3
TogetherThroughLife: I felt the same way when I went off BC pills (first time in 10 years) – I was worried my old problems were going to resurface, and as much as I really, really want to be a parent, I was still nervous. I’ve had some time to get used to the idea since we haven’t concieved yet and some aspects still give me butterflies.
It’s a big life decision. I think butterflies just mean that you recognize that it’s a big decision that will change your life!
Post # 4
sparklerunner: I was just going to say the same thing! Of course you’re nervous!!! We are talking about going off the pill soon, and I feel the same way! It’s exciting an great, but when it really comes down to it, it will be terrifying! Good terrifying, but terrifying nonetheless. You’re in good company
Post # 5
TogetherThroughLife: If you weren’t nervous, I’d be concerned! Deciding to have a baby is a big decision that changes your life immensly! It’s normal to feel both excitement and anxiety over it. I got pregnant unexpectedly a few months before we had planned to actively start TTC and I always say it’s best it happened that way because I don’t know if I ever would have been able to say okay, I’m ready, let’s do this now! Despite those feelings, I absolutely loooooove being a mother and my daughter is the most amazing thing that’s ever happened to me! I can’t imagine life without her and can’t wait to add to our family now. Best of luck in your journey! Carrying your baby, giving birth and watching them grow is hard work but the best thing ever!
Post # 6
ME TOO! I don’t deal with big changes well. I was a wreck when I first got engaged — I was terrified to make a lifelong commitment, even to someone I’d known for seven years. Having a baby is making a lifelong commitment to a total stranger — and you can’t even take the edge off your nerves with a glass of wine once you are pregnant.
My husband and I started sorta, kinda trying last month, and I still keep going back and forth — and I’ve wanted to have a baby for years, our relationship has never been better, we bought a nice family-friendly house, and we will never, ever have a better time to have one than now (or in 9 months from now). But it is SO scary….
But, once I got over my terror at getting married, planning our wedding and living our lives together has been the best. I suppose having a baby will be the same. I just overthink things!
Post # 7
TogetherThroughLife: I hear you. You’re not alone! I just told my gyno I was going off the pill after my wedding and I practically hyperventilated when I picked up what would be my last prescription. And I’m in my 30s, no spring chicken. I’m even scared to be responsible for a pet. :\ So we don’t yet have one.
It’s a huge deal and it’s ok to be scared. I don’t like change, and this is a big change. I like to be in control of all things and this really isn’t something I can control – so many uncertainties and what-ifs!
My fiance, in the meantime, is all “are you still on the pill? I wouldn’t mind a honeymoon baby!” Ugh.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2014 - Courthouse
It’s OK to be nervous! Sometimes I’m like OMG if I get pregnant then there’s another PERSON! A WHOLE PERSON! It’s not just DH and I anymore!
Don’t be disappointed though if you come off your birth control and DON’T get pregnant. It’s really disappointing to be like OK…I’m not protecting myself anymore where is this baby!? It’s super hard to see AF after that whenever you’ve been preventing forever and then you’re ready. That’s just my experience though. You might get pregnant the month you quit though haha. Some people just are lucky like that! Good luckkkk and baby dust!
Post # 9
I got pregnant my first month off BC, so just be sure you’re ready. It MIGHT happen really FAST!!!!
Post # 10
I know the feeling. I’ve been playing with the idea of going off BC, even though we aren’t TTC yet (we’d use other protection). I just want my body to get used to being off it. But at the same time, I don’t want to do that until we are REALLY ready to be parents, even if it’s not in the plans yet. Just in case something happens.
As much as I really really want a baby, I know I will be nervous when the time comes to TTC. Will I be a good mom? Can I really handle it? It’s such a HUGE change.
Post # 11
sparklerunner: Thank you so much. It’s great to know I’m not alone. And good luck as you continue trying. 🙂
MrsWBS: Ahhh this is beautiful. Thank you so much. 🙂
Thank you all so much. I’m glad to know I’m in good company. Hubby is nervous too. But it’s a good nervous I think. When we talk about how scared and nervous we are, we just smile ear to ear and giggle and sigh – crazy to think how much life will change for the better in the next…year or so, hopefully!
Post # 12
Totally know how you feel! I went off bc in March, and was too freaked to do it sooner, convinced I would get pregnant immediately, said I wasn’t ready, just got married, etc. The first time we had unprotected sex, I was so distracted! The first month I nervously charted and tracked ovulation and was still a bit unsure…. And when we didn’t get pregnant that cycle I was DEVSTATED, and I knew a baby was what I wanted.
We we jst got our bfp a few days ago, and I’ thrilled and scared. Normal! Good luck!
Post # 13
hassle_J: Congrats on your pregnancy! I am excited to start trying… 🙂
Post # 14
My DH and I aren’t at that point yet of TTC, but I’ve been on BC for almost eleven years! I’m worried about how my body is going to react without it. Am I going to gain weight? Get acne? Go crazy? Haha, i’m sure I’ll survive but I am nervous for that time.
Post # 15
Oh yeah, I remember that. We talked it through before I had my implant removed. Then we had an “are we sure we are still good with this?” talk on the day of removal. Then we actually had another “are we absolutely sure?” talk before we first had unprotected sex!
My only warning is that most women try so desperately hard not to get pregnant for the first 20 or so years of their lives, that they think all it takes is a bottle of wine and an early night. For many people, that isn’t the case… so you need to prepare yourself for the possibility that you could be in for a long wait at this point!