Post # 1
I feel like a kid in highschool that accidentally got knocked up when it comes to telling them about the fact that we just found out we are pregnant. I don’t know why! They weren’t too excited when I told them about getting married. Not that they weren’t excited. They just didn’t act like it. And I know they would really prefer me to put of having children as long as possible. DH and I were ready. We are scared beause this is our first child but we are also so very ready. Ugh…
My best friend (who is the only person who knows so far… I just HAD to tell somebody and I knew she could keep a secret) says that I am just scared and nervous in general and telling them would make it too real. Maybe. But still… what to do?
Was anybody else scared to tell their parents about being pregnant even though there is NOTHING wrong and it is actually a super exciting thing? How did you get over the nervousness and tell them? How did they react?
Post # 3
Nope, don’t understand your fears, your married. You and DH wanted a baby, there should be no fear of telling anyone .
Post # 4
How old are you? And how old was your mother when she had her first child?
Post # 5
I was since I found out after the honeymoon. I thought they would be very judgemental. It went fine though. I am sure your folks will be happy!
Post # 7
@Mrs Hedgehog: So happy for you and I’m sure your parents will be too! Take a big breath and share the news!
Post # 8
I understand! Even though I knew my parents would be super happy, I was still nervous telling them. I actually started crying on the phone to my mom (they live 10 hours away, so that’s how I told them). Of course they were happy (and, I wasn’t married at the time). I think when you’re pregnant for the first time, lots of things make you nervous, for no real reason. Hope it goes well! 🙂
Post # 9
@paula1248: My mother had me admittedly very young. She and my dad got married when she was 18 and had me when she was 20. She always says she wishes she had waited a little bit longer and she wants that for us. She also is upset I am not completely in the career I want and believes that having a child will stop me from persuing that. It wont. Her hesitation has nothing to do with her. It is all about her wanting the best for me. So, I am nervous. Has that stopped us? Nope. Does that make this pregnancy any less exciting? Nope. But telling them is nervewracking.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
@Mrs Hedgehog: I’m scared to tell DH’s parents when we get pregnant because they’re very vehemently against us having a baby any time soon. Most of my relatives have waited until 10+ weeks to announce to family though in case of MC and so that they could revell alone for the first little bit. Maybe wait a little bit and then let them know? I’m so excited for you!
Post # 12
I totally understand. I’m not TTC yet because neither of us has a great job and we’re still pretty young, but even in a few years if we got PG, I would absolutely feel like a kid telling my parents I got KU. Nothing I can really say to make you feel better other than that they probably will be very happy and excited for you… and if not, god knows this community will be (already is)!!
Post # 13
I totally understand the fear. You want them to be as esctatic as you are! But just understand that this is a deeply important moment for you and you DH. Be overjoyed no matter what other peoples’ reactions are. They might surprise you; you’d be surprised how crazy being a grandparent makes people. Crazy in a good way!
Post # 14
I think with having your first child it is very nerve wrecking to tell your parents. You worry what they will think, etc. You just need to bite the bullet and tell them. You can either try to do a creative way or just blurt it out. When we told my DH’s parents we did it via Skype since they live 4 hours and another state away. We told my parents when they were at our house. Basically how I did it was (my brother has kids already). I asked them how they felt about becoming grandparents again. It then dawned on them that we were pregnant.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Didn’t you just find out? I’d wait until you are in your second trimester to tell your parents since you are anxious about it.
You don’t know what’s going to happen, so there’s no point in possibly stirring things up until you know this is the real deal.
Personal story: we got pregnant almost immediately after getting married. When we called DH’s mom to tell her, her response was underwhelming. In reality, though, she was quite happy. She was just shocked (and very tired… had her 4th grade students on a 4 day trip). Within a few days, she was over the moon about it. I’ll hope that you parents are excited for you and ready to be grandparents.
Post # 16
I know this feeling because I was that teenager who did something wrong… Trust me even if they are mad at first as soon as they see the little baby everything changes!