Never a Bridesmaid?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would You Like to be a Bridesmaid One Day?
    Yes, it looks so fun! : (83 votes)
    51 %
    No thanks, not interested. : (60 votes)
    37 %
    I'd rather be the bride. : (20 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    I would like to – I think it’d be fun. I’ve been a long-distance MOH (basically I just showed up and stood there at the ceremony) and a bride, but never a bridesmaid.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    9919 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @CarterLove:  never been a bridesmaid, i tend to get left out of bridal parties which makes me sad.

    Post # 5
    Member
    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @CarterLove:  I was honorary bridesmaid at a wedding with no bridal party. So basically I threw the shower with her other close women, helped her get ready on the wedding day and helped set up/ breakdown the reception. Do I want to do all that plus buy a dress I don’t like and stand through the whole ceremony? No thanks. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    441 posts
    Helper bee

    Yes, I want to be a bridesmaid at least once! I know it can be wretched, but my friends are pretty chill. I enjoy crafts and throwing parties so I think I would be OK. I also just love wedding stuff, so I wouldn’t mind the bride talking about it endlessly, haha.

    Post # 7
    Member
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’ve never been a bridesmaid.  I got left out of a few which I was hurt, and my MOH eloped so I just went to her reception and was told I would have been MOH if she would have had a wedding.  My last chance is my sister because pretty much all my other friends are married. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’m indifferent, but I tend more toward the ”no” than ”yes”. It’s not something that I absolutely want to try. It’s not something I’d be offended about if my sister or friend didn’t ask me. Here it’s tradition that the BMs pay their dress, hair, makeup, shoes, etc. And I certainly CAN’T afford to be a bridesmaid anytime in the next 2-3 years or so. That’s also why I won’t have a bridal party. My BFF and sister can’t afford it either right now.

    Post # 9
    Member
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    With all of the complaining about BMs and bridezillas that goes on here on WB I lost all desire to be a BM.  So in my case, always the bride, never the bridesmaid.

    Post # 10
    Member
    26 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I was a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding a few years back, and will be in my friend’s next year. It’s fun when you know others who are a part of the bridal party, or can get along with new people easily. Such as my past friends. I’m worried about the upcoming one, because I won’t know her bridal party-it’s just me and her sister and the groom’s friends. The most important part, is being there for my friend.

    It is a lot of fun, but a lot of work if you want to help out. I love being a piece of my friend’s special day, so I’m the friend to lean on, vent to, recieve support, go to bridal shows, help plan the bachelorette and bridal shower, and help make her day extra special. It requires extra cash, and extra attention for the bride. Some don’t expect all that, but I want to give it my all-and doing so can be emotionally, physically and monetarilly hard work. Be prepared to do it all.

    To sum it up, I find it a fantastic experience and loved having the honor of being a part of the wedding. Just be careful, because friendships have been known to disrupt and chaos ensues, if all parties don’t realize the expectations of the bride. 🙂

    Someday, you all will be fabulous BM’s!

    Post # 12
    Member
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I have been a bridesmaid many times and a MOH three times, and I don’t want to do it ever again.  I like to attend weddings as a guest.  Unfortunately, my brother is getting married and I think my sister and I will be asked to be in the party.  The grass is always greener on the other side!

    Post # 13
    Member
    8426 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @CarterLove:  Nope, I usually try to avoid it at all costs.  When I have been in a wedding party, it’s a lot of getting primped, which I hate.  I will usually volunteer to craft items for my friends’ weddings on the condition that I don’t have to be in the wedding party.

    Post # 14
    Member
    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’ve never been a bridesmaid, either! Only one of my friends is married, and she only had family members in her bridal party. I’m also the first one of my sisters to get married. I’m sure once I’ve done it once or twice I’ll be over it, but I would be excited to share in someone’s special day as a BM.

    Post # 15
    Member
    3016 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    Never been one and hope I never will be. So much drama!

    I have been a witness twice.

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