Post # 1
Originally, my mother was planning to plan and host my bridal shower, and to heck with traditional ettiquette. My FMIL has a very close group of girlfriends who, upon learning that fiance and I were engaged, wanted to do something for us. They offered to throw my shower instead, and since they live in the state where it will actually take place and my mother and I do not, it made sense. My mom was more than willing to hand off the reigns. No one’s toes were stepped on. But, I have never met these women. While I am grateful, I also am feeling awkward.
On top of this, I, unfortunately, am a registry-stalker, and it seems that my registries have barely been touched, even though 40 invitations were sent out for the shower. Granted, I don’t know what the RSVP situation looks like, but it seems strange considering the shower is five days from now. I know showers are not about gifts, but as brides, y’all know we can’t help but hope for gifts. Fiance and I have literally nothing, as neither of us have ever had our own apartments, so gifts are somewhat crucial for us. Sigh.
The plan is to express enormous gratitude to these ladies, smile, and mingle…I have no idea what’s happening at the shower, so that’s about all the personal planning I can do!
Post # 2
rachelEK: I wouldn’t stress too much yet. If I’m going to a shower on a Saturday or Sunday, you know when I buy the gift? Friday night on my way home from work! I’m horrible but I think a lot of people are like me about registry gifts, it’s just too easy to run in and grab whatever super quick as opposed to having to think about it.
As for not knowing the group hosting your shower, I think you have the exact right attitude. Smile, chat and be extraordinarily grateful! Have fun at your shower, lady!
Post # 3
rachelEK: I am not going to lie to you….for showers i usually give cash and household items….what *I* prefer to do….since my FI and I support ourselves completely, and are paying 100% for our current wedding…..I *LOOK* at the registry and if I can find the exact item or close to it from somewhere cheaper I will….honestly i do it all the time….My BFF registered at a well know slightly expensive store for an item for her bridal shower that was roughly $65 from that store….I could find the almost exact same item with better reviews from a different store for less than 1/2 the price…..and it depends on what you registered for….if you registered for a bunch of expensive items i am more then likely to give cash….so you can buy what you want….
and about 85% of the time….i buy the gift the week of if not a few days before….its a bad habbit….so i wouldnt worry about it too much….cash works just as good…so you can get what you want….keep in mind somepeople will give cash for a shower and gifts for the wedding….
just relax and enjoy the day….make sure you go out of your way to meet chat with and thank the ladies throwing you the shower….
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I usually buy from the registry for the actual wedding gift, not the shower.
Post # 5
rachelEK: I totaly registry stalked for both my wedding and shower. 90% of what was bought was bought within 3 days of both.
Post # 6
rachelEK: You may be surprised. Maybe they’re not as technologically savvy and looked at the registry and then went to the store and bought it without marking it off.
Plus, you don’t only get gifts at the shower. You’ll probably want a table at your wedding and reception for gifts. Just be patient, and see what’s there. Plus, some people give money nowadays instead of gifts. And you can buy whatever the heck you want with that.
And I think it’s nice that someone wants to welcome you into his family/friend cirlce by throwing you a shower. It just means that they love your FI and want to make you feel welcome. It may feel awkward because you don’t know them, but there’s a lot of awkward stuff surrounding weddings.
Post # 7
I got a lot of good stuff for my shower and afterward, I had to go onto my registry and mark a lot of it off myself. I don’t know if people got it elsewhere, or if they bought it in store and they didn’t mark it off or what, but I wouldn’t worry too much about it 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks y’all! I tend to be a *bit* of a worry-wart, even for things as silly as this. 🙂