(Closed) Never ask a waiting bee what she wants for her birthday!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@stace0616:  Oh honey! 

When he gets back just tell him sweetly you know he won’t get you a ring, you just hate the anticipation and want that whole thing over with because you love him and want to start planning forever as soon as possible. (Make it sweet so he knows your not mad when he doesn’t) Also tell him if he did that would create a new budget for bday presents that you don’t think you could afford. 😉 

When my bf asked me what I wanted I just looked at him and said, “You know what I want.” 

His reply, “I do?” Genuinely confused. I got a Hello Kitty Toaster and an adorable homemade cake *kinda what I really wanted*. I love him soo much! 😀 



Post # 4
807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ugh. I haaaaated this question so much. You can’t answer honestly but SERIOUSLY.

The thing that sucks about waiting is that, even if you have an idea of a timeline…it doesn’t necessarily make you want to be engaged any less! Don’t beat yourself up too much, he should know your feelings and where you’re coming from, since you’ve already discussed marriage quite a bit. 

I would maybe just bring it back up later when you’re both relaxed. Just let him know that you weren’t trying to pressure him, but that you’re really excited to be his wife someday and sometimes that excitement gets the best of you. And maybe give him one or two small ideas just to let him know there’s other things he could do that would make you happy besides buy you a ring? Because yes, that’s definitely the big thing…but he probably (for ego’s sake) wants to know he can do other things that would make your day even if he’s not quite ready to propose.

Post # 5
63 posts
Worker bee

This is funny! I thought I was the only one… I have said “you know what I want” for the last few birthdays and christmas even too.. Didnt get me anywhere yet though… I think he would catch me off guard if he did it on these days because I honestly don’t expect that he would ever cave!

Post # 6
2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@bellasperanza: this. You need to fluff his ego back up. He probably feels guilty if he cant give you what you want so you should tell him some other ideas that you’d really like, that are within his power, or what he feels his power anyway. I’m sure you wouldn’t care if he proposed with a plastic prize ring out of a cracker jack box!

Post # 7
339 posts
Helper bee

Haha…my birthday is also coming up and I said the same thing.  Then “just kidding” sorta.  I would just reassure him that you aren’t expecting anything and that you love him!  He will forget about it!

Post # 8
1077 posts
Bumble bee

I just waggle my eyebrows and make a completely over the top hopeful face when my SO asks me this question. By making it a joke I get to say what’s on my mind and he doesn’t feel pressured. Maybe try being light-hearted about it with him? “Baby, I was being a dunce. I would love X and maybe a ring pop to tide me over ;)”. Just be honest about how you feel about it.

Post # 10
807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yaaaaaaay it’s coming SOON! How exciting! And how hard to keep waiting too haha. 

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