Post # 1
So when we got engaged, and started talking about budget, one of the first things I said was “Well, of course we don’t need a band, we’ll just do DJ, or maybe even Ipod.” FI is on board with this idea, probably because he’s not that much into dancing. In looking at DJ prices, we’d prob just go that route to save the trouble.
But now we have a very nice church booked for the wedding, and a gorgeous historic ballroom for the reception. And my mom and aunt are very surprised that we didn’t want a band. Like the title said, I’ve never been to a wedding with a reception band. Just DJs. My aunt has offered to pay for the band, which is really really nice and generous of her, and I really do trust her opinions as she has been to many more weddings than I.
But for some reason checking out bands’ sites just doesn’t do much for me..I guess I’m just nervous about the whole party being in a few people’s hands all night. Does that make sense? But they’re professionals, and we’re finding some with great reviews! Obviously, I’m very torn. And I just like music as it is played in original recordings, but we could have songs prepared to play during breaks.
Do you prefer a band or a DJ? Did anyone have their minds changed about a band for the wedding? Are there some pro’s or con’s that I’m overlooking here? Should I just go with it because she’s paying and trust that it’ll be an awesome party?
And I’ll mention that this is a NOLA reception, so no sit down dinner. You come into the reception, music starts pretty much at the beginning and that’s what you’ve got all night.
Post # 4
We had both. We had a Macedonian band play the Macedonian music and they doubled as a DJ for the American music. Honestly, I really liked the band! Our reception was in an art museum and it sounded great in there. The only problem with most receptions that I’ve been to with is a band is that they are wayyy too loud! That would be the only problem. I would talk with your venue about how the noise is in there and then make up your mind. There is nothing worse than having a band so loud you cannot hear anyone talk!
Post # 5
I’ve been to both – weddings that had DJs and weddings that had bands – and I did a complete 180 on my feelings.
Not that the weddings that had DJs instead of a band were not fun, but I went to a wedding a couple of years ago that had a band that was absolutely PHENOMENAL! They played everything from oldies to modern pop music and what was so cool about them was they way they blended songs together. They also played medlies of certain artists (at this particular wedding the couple were huge Elvis Presley fans so they did an Elvis medley that was awesome). They really got the crowd going and it was honestly one of the most fun weddings I have ever been to.
My roomate booked this band for her wedding this summer and it did not come cheap (around $8,000 if I remember correctly!) and they do get most of their bookings from word of mouth – they’re that good. They also had saxsophones, trumpets and other brass instruments that I totally did not expect.
Up until that wedding I had this idea that bands were stuffy and pretentious. Yes, the band music does not sound like the original recording, but that’s what made it cool.
I don’t know if there’s pros or cons of having a band or a DJ, except that a DJ is MUCH less expensive than a band.
You really cannot just check out a band’s web site. You really need to hear them in person if possible.
Oh, this band did play recorded music on their breaks. I think they all do.
I was going to have a DJ at our reception so I don’t think my wedding would have been less fun vs having a band but if I had the budget I would totally get this band that I saw. Maybe when I actually do get married I will have to consider it.
Post # 6
I’ve been to weddings with both and I think they are both great. However, we had a band and it was probably one of the things that made the band the most fun. We did go see them at a venue and at a wedding (the manager met us at the back of the reception area and we listened for a few songs to get a feel for what they were like at a wedding). I would not have hired them without seeing them live as nothing sounds the same on a computer.
Post # 7
Thanks for your responses.
I guess I am just overwhelmed at needing to find a GREAT band. That process I’m just not sure of, and I realize I’m not seeing anything good on a computer. We’re going to see about checking out some in person, but performances at non-wedding locations are going to be different than wedding ones..there’s just so much to consider.
And I think my resistence to a band is not because I think they’re stuffy, it’s actually the opposite! Most bands around here (hello, New Orleans!) are almost TOO much of a crazy time. And then it’s turning into a band concert..so I just have to find one that will perform how I see for my wedding. It’s just overwhelming to me, when I thought it would be an easy decision..
Post # 8
@spotted_giraffe: If you find one you like, they should be able to let you know of an upcoming wedding that you can slip into and listen for a few minutes. That way you know what they are like at a wedding. We did this with our band and we told them that we were fine if they wanted to have people do that during our wedding. It is a lot of work, but it’s worth it!