Post # 1
Any other bees feel like they never have any or enough alone time with SO/FI/DH??
I feel like we are both so busy and there is always SOMEONE right there. We have his daughter alot, which i’ve adjusted and make my self busy during those times because she basically thinks i’m satan so i stay away from her, its less stressful for everyone, but at the same time his family is always over! Either a brother or parent, and don’t get me wrong i really love his family but sometimes i want my house to myself, i want SO to myself, ugh! Ive been busy every night this week, I’ve been training for a race, so i’ve been running in the morning at 4am, work has been hectic, i’d really like to catch up on my housework this evening beacuse we have an extremly busy weekend and SO just called me and asked me what i was going to make for dinner because his brother is coming over…….UGH! I love his brother, but damnit i’m tired, i’ve been busy, i want to clean my house and not entertain anyone! I’m sure SO could hear in my voice that i was a little annoyed but it’s not just the above stuff……..it’s the fact that it’s another night that i don’t get to spend with him, he’s a slave to his job and his daughter generally takes up all of his time. We spend probably every other weekend (all weekend) with his parents, which i like them but i feel like everyone is over involved in our lives, so frustrated right now! I’m sure i sound like a baby but it’s getting old. They only reason they come around so much is because of his daughter, it’s not to see us. So i’m leaving work in a couple minutes, so much for going home to a semi-quiet house and doing what i want……or watching my shows later 🙁
Post # 3
I am so sorry you are going through this! I can imagine this would be very hard to deal with, not to mention his daughter thinking you’re spawn of satan. Do you think she’ll ever be YOUR daughter too?
We don’t have kids and we aren’t related to anyone in this entire time zone, so I have the opposite problem – no one ever visits us and all our good friends have moved away! So I guess I should not say that anymore, seeing how the opposite is.
Does your H feel the same way as you do? Have you two talked about it?
Do you have any dates nights, even if it’s staying in for the night for pizza and a movie?
Post # 4
Thank you, we do have date nights, we try to do it on the nights when he doesn’t have her and the other family members are busy! I shouldn’t complain too much because it would be hard not having anyone either! We have discussed it, I think because since the birth of his daughter (everyone treats it like a big secret, like he’s the ONLY one on the planet that had a child from a one night stand, they are sheltered lol) his family has been all over him and her, so he is numb to it, but he does understand why i’m shell shocked. I did find out after my lil rant yesterday that he planned a weekend away to another town about 4 hours away, his other brother is in school there, but he said one night he like to visit him and the other night just us go to something since he’ll be working, then he asked me to take that Monday off to go the vineyards, just us (a lil piece me got all engagement/waiting excited lol) even thou its not for another month I’m glad he made an effort to compromise.
To be honest I don’t know if his daughter will ever think i’m not evil 🙁 Its sad, she loves my parents and my brother but she has very little like, let alone love for me. I love her to death and I often suck it up when she is screaming at me or telling me she hates me, it’s hard not to have the love returned but I just let her do her thing and hope for a day when she wakes up and realizes I’m not taking her dad, replacing her mother or trying to hurt her. Maybe when she’s older and out of the jealous little girl stage she will. I wish and pray for it alot.
I couldn’t imagine thou not having any family or friends around……that would have to be just as difficult, *hugs* to you!!!! And thx for the support!
Post # 5
Hey that’s good, sounds like he agree it’s a priority to cut out time for just you two! I hope it gest better.
I’m actually fine with not having family near me for the most part. I get a little sad when I see photos of my baby neice and nephew on Facebook and I want to hold them. We can go whatever we want on weekends and holidays, though.