Post # 1
As a little girl, I heard adult women comment something along the lines that it is never ok, to leave a woman (any woman) alone in your house with your man under any circumstances. I’ve heard it a time or two as an adult, and I’ve always been curious whether this was commonly said in other peoples’ circles as well. If so, is this good advice? Have you or would you leave a female friend or acquaintance alone with your husband?
Post # 3
@Overjoyed: HELL.TO.THE.NO. but also he probably wouldn’t like me leaving him anywhere unless we were at home etc.
Post # 4
@Overjoyed: Huh?? I’ve never heard anyone have that conversation. Yes I’d leave my FI alone with one of my friends. It’s not like they’ll be like “oh we’re alone, better have sex now” or something… I trust him much more than that.
Post # 5
@Overjoyed: I think I have heard this once or twice… But I cannot agree with it.
I have to believe in trust, because there will always be opportunity for them to stray, it’s up to them (him) to do the right thing and come home to me every night.
I have male friends that I hang out with alone at times and my man is as cool as a cucumber.
Post # 6
@lina010: So if you had a female houseguest (maybe from out of town or something), would you make arrangements to be home at all times so as to avoid her being alone with your man?
Post # 7
I trust my FI, and my friends, enough to know that they wouldn’t do anything if I wasn’t around.
Post # 8
I think that’s a little silly, honestly. Of course it depends on the man (and the woman) but I think in a normal relationship where people trust each other that’s a little overly suspicious.
Now I wouldn’t be too happy if my SO spent the night in another woman’s place (unless there was a blizzard or something) but he has visited a female friend on his own several times when I was ill or busy and I don’t have any issues with that. I trust him that when a single female friend asks him to come over to fix her computer that’s in fact what he’s doing.
Post # 9
Are we talking for 5 minutes? An hour? Overnight?
I think it depends on the situation and depends on who the acquaintance is. In general I like to avoid temptation when at all possible (this is how cheating happens!), but no… I don’t think it’s an automatic recipe for cheating.
Post # 10
@Overjoyed: yeah, I would probably be off from work to entertain my guest unless it was my mom/his mom/his sister.
Post # 11
@Overjoyed: What situation would force us to do so?
I can’t think of any reason why my husband would need to be alone with another women or for any reason that I would be alone with another man. Unless the situation is work related then my answer is no because why not avoid a potentially harmful situation all together?
I trust my husband but I would never trust/expect another girl to respect our/his boundaries. My hubby feels uncomfortable when I am with guys and always wants to be there with me. I have similar thoughts/feeling so it works for us.
However, if other couples don’t mind leaving their spouse with another person then I don’t think that is a big deal either. You gotta choose what is right for you and your partner!
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Of course I would leave my husband alone with a friend of mine. I don’t think they would all of a sudden feel tempted to bone down just because I left them alone.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I don’t have any “rules” concerning my husband hanging out with other women.
When I have to work late, he may grab dinner or drinks with our mutual female friend(s). Sometimes we’ll have a female friend over to watch a new episode of a show we all watch, and I’ll leave to grab some takeout, leaving them alone. I have zero trust issues with him. Sometimes I feel like I’m in the minority, with all the threads that ask questions like this!
Post # 14
I have never heard this and think it is quit ridiculous. There are times in life when you can’t control everything. I am not going to act like a conjoined twin just to make sure my husband is not alone with another woman. And if I thought he needed me to, I am not sure he would have the qualities I am looking for in a husband.
Post # 15
Seroiusly? So, when my Mom comes over and I’m not at home and she’s alone with my husband, I should worry that she is seducing him?
Sorry, but I’ve stayed at friends homes and have been alone with their husbands and nothing has happened
I trust my man. If he is going to screw around on me, it can happen anytime with anyone and I won’t be able to control it.
Post # 16
Never heard that at all! Ive left female houseguests alone with my husband and im sure i will do again