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All of the previous posters are right on.  Don't be afraid to ask for feedback and give plenty of feedback.  Just as much as you want to knock his socks off, so does he for you.  Demonstrations are always welcome to show the other what feels good.  Best wishes!

If I were you I would stay away from the KY his & hers until you've gotten the first couple of Twister games under your belt.  I think you probably need to know what you like all natural before you start supplementing.

We use the lube named "Wet".  I highly suggest it.  It's water based and I've even seen it suggested in multiple other places. You can get it in places like Walgreens and Walmart even.  

Will you be using some sort of birth control?  I find condoms to be very uncomfortable (as almost every man I know would agree).  If you are planning on using BC you should start using it immediately. It takes a while for it to be considered effective, though I can't remember how long.  Condoms can cause alot of friction so if you do plan on using them make sure you have plenty of lube.  The friction can definitely increase your risk of yeast infection, bacterial infections, and even possibly UTIs.

Make sure you drink water before the big game and then go pee before and after Twister (especially after).  Twister increases your risk of UTI significantly and by urinating you flush the bacteria away.  This isn't a problem for everyone but it def effects me along with many many other women.

You have the rest of your life to dig into fun stuff like toys, tingeling lubes, and handcuffs but you can always start incorporating those things as you feel comfortable with them.  Maybe a blindfold and some sexy lingerie might be a little bit easier to start out with.

And remember.. there's nothing to be embarassed about and have fun :)

I agree with all of the above posters for SURE, but my best advice would be DON'T BE UPSET IF IT DOESN'T "WORK"!!!!! Honest to God, I do not remember my first time, and not because I was drunk or because I just forgot, but because I'm not sure exactly "when" my first time happened. It seriously took at least 5 tries to get my ex's twister part to go in my twister part! So it was definitely gradual and the first many times were DEFINITELY not knock ANYONE'S socks off kind of twister! Much more like "ow! try this- no- ouch- wait-maybe like this?-no" I agree- just laugh, have fun with it, and enjoy your first night of really exploring the game of twister- but definitely don't expect it to be the best game either of you will ever play!!  

Chiming in with another lube recommendation.  I love Wet Platinum and Slippery Stuff.  It seriously makes a HUGE difference- it's much more enjoyable.  We also like to play around with KY Yours and Mine sometimes.

My best advice is don't neglect foreplay, there's lots of fun to be had before you get completely tangled up :)  Try EVERYTHING together, and don't be afraid to share what you like and dislike.  Don't be embarrassed to share your fantasies with each other- acting them out can be really enjoyable and it brings you closer together.  

As far as knocking his socks off- it's amazing what a little lingerie, candlelight, and all over the body kisses can do :)

Hi, I just wanted to add if you do use lube and condoms, make sure that they work together, in other words, that the lube does not break down the condom. I don't use lube, so I don't know, but I would assume the popular brands don't do this, but I just wanted to throw that out there!

Have fun and make sure to communicate with each other before, during and after the game! :) 

@ejs4y8:  We've never tried the lambskin condoms but the Trojan Supra condoms (non-laxtex) are totally worth the extra money.  They definitely transmit heat better and feel much more like nothing is there.

Congratulations on the Wedding!!! I only want to add:

The most important thing I learned in college was PEE AFTER SEX!!! Wipe back to front so that you don't push any sex-fluids into your urinary tract. Doing this will prevent very uncomfortable Urinary Tract Infections!

If you plan on playing a lot of "Twister" I'd reccomend drinking a class of cranberry juice every day, which will also lessen the likely hood of getting a UTI.

You'll know you have a UTI when your urine is very darkly colored and cloudy instead of clear. Your kidneys might be tender, and you'll feel like you have to pee all the time. When you go pee, it'll only be a little (since you just went 10 mintues ago) and it'll hurt. Drink cranberry juice until you can get antibiotics from your doctor. And, remember that antibiotics lessen the effect of birth control pills, so as my pharacist told me: "wrap it before you tap it." (hello! how mortifying is it to have your pharmacist tell you that in the grocery store!!!)

My recomendations.

1) Lube.  Been said over and over but can't be emphasized enough.  Water based wont stain your sheets.  You can get better quality stuff from a reputable woman-focused sex shop (not one of those scary man focused places!).  But if you don't know where to find one of those (ask your girlfriends) you can get the grocery store stuff.  Reguar KY isn't the best because it wasn't really developed for repetive insertion.  But the new KY long lasting is actually pretty great.  Don't think that being young doesn't mean you need lube - you may not need it but lube makes EVERYTHING more fun.

And lube isn't just for the actual act either.  It's great for massages and for giving each other "intimate rub downs" if ya know what I mean.  (wink wink)

2) Mental preperation.  It's great that you've done research to know how all the parts work.  That's the first step.  Second step is to work on your expectations.  As many women here have mentioned it wont be mind blowing, probably for months.  And that's ok.  That's how it's supposed to be.  Just focus on having fun and taking your time together.  It's really so special that you've waited so long, relish the moment.  Honestly, your first time will probably be kind of strange.  It takes practice to get the movements smooth and figure out what each of you enjoys, and how much of a warm up is enough.  But, hey, practice makes perfect!

 3) If he's never done it before, just having you there will blow his mind.  Don't worry about it.

4) Don't go too crazy on the honey moon.  And if you must, LUBE LUBE LUBE!  Having sex repeadely, especially if it's new to you can get you all irritated down there.  Take a day off and don't be scared to tell him if you're starting to get sore.  You don't want to come home from your honeymoon with a UI infection!

5) Drinky drinky.  Getting a little drunk (not too drunk, esp for him) makes sex hilarious and fun. 

6) Try to relax your muscles down there when your twisting.  One good tip is to concentate on relaxing your jaw muscles - somehow it seems to translate to the rest of your body.