(Closed) Never recieved thank you card

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

No, that’s crazy rude.  I’m sorry!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think alot of people think Thank you notes are passe and too formal… that being said, my mom would be MORTIFIED if I didn’t send them out! She taught me better than that. I would sent them a nice little note asking them if they did indeed recieve it, just to “make sure”!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Wow that’s the rudest thing I’ve ever heard of…

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I HATE not getting TY cards.  I think it is so incredibly rude.  My sister eloped, but months later when she told us, my mom insisted on throwing her a small reception.  I live out of town and couldn’t make it but sent her a large gift card, well that was 2 years ago and I’m still waiting.  Verbal thanks is NOT enough IMHO.  Also sent a gift along with family to a baby shower this summer that I couldn’t attend and have yet to get a TY card.  You’re right, this is just plain rude.  Unfortunately not much you can do about it. 🙁

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think a lot of ppl just don’t do ty notes anymore.  I don’t think it’s OK….I feel it’s incredibly rude.  But I didn’t get a ty note from my cousin for his wedding, and I didn’t get one from my FSIL for her wedding gift either.  Some people are just clueless and even if you wouldn’t normally write a ty note for an xmas or b-day present, I think you still should for a wedding gift. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

It’s terribly rude!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

While I totally agree that thank you notes are necessary and that it’s rude not to send one, I will say that I think that October 5 is a little early to be writing off a sometime-in-June wedding.  I got married at the end of July and still have a fair number of TYs to go.  Do I wish I’d finished them all, yes, but I also think I deserve a little bit of slack.  I want mine out before our three-month mark, but I think a six-month window is fair.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Get on it then! 😉 The traditional window is two months; now I see people saying three, and some people think a year is appropriate. I am going to have to disagree that six months is fair; I think it’s rude to people who sent a gift not to thank them for it in a timely manner. Everyone is busy, but I guarantee some of your guests will be very annoyed with you if they haven’t received a thank you by the end of the year.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i think that’s very rude as well! but i have been guilty of not sending the thank you cards which is a huge no no (so sorry people that bought stuff for my son’s shower almost 9 years ago!!) but i do agree that people don’t think to send the thank you gifts sometimes life just happens and they forget… i’d at least thank everyone with a phone call though!! (i did that and actually a great nurse at the job that i was working at when i was preggo with my son made an awesome blanket for him that he still has in his room sigh.. i wish i kept in touch to send a pic)….

i must say to those that are reading and haven’t sent thank you cards in the past to please break the habit and send them it will make you feel so much better especially since people took the time to think of you on your special day.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve been to weddings and baby showers and whatnot where I have not received thank you cards. I think it is terribly rude. My parents taught me and my FI’s parents taught him to always write thank you cards. I still write thank you cards to my grandmother when she gives me a birthday card. I don’t know what happened to etiquette but I think it’s absolutely terrible. People should always write thank you cards, especially for wedding gifts. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Um, they opened the gifts during the reception? Really? That’s bizarre. Technically, while they still have time to get a thank you card to you, they at least could have verbally thanked you by now.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

When I read the title of this post, I was going to say something like “Oh, maybe they lost the gift/card and didn’t know it was from you” or something… but after reading that they opened it in front of you and didn’t even acknowledge you then I definitely won’t make excuses for them. Let’s hope a card comes soon, and if not, I think I would find a way to mention my gift to them in my next conversation with the couple, just to see what they say – you know, like “Oh we loved your wedding. how are you liking that plaque we made you?” or something.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yeah, I would have to agree with everyone else…its rude and no you dont have up to a year to send a thank you note! I also dont buy the “Ive been super busy”….were your guests too busy to spend $300+ on a flight ticket, $100+ on hotel, take days off from work and purchase a gift…I dont think so! So the least the bride/groom can do is take 5 minutes our of your super busy day to write a note.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Very rude of them!  I bought my friend (who’s wedding I was a BM in) a $60 gift and didn’t recieve a thank you card until 6 months later.  For the longest time I thought she was really rude.  I spent all that time and money being in her wedding, and bought her what I consider an expensive gift for a poor grad student like me and she couldn’t even send a thank you.

 

Some people are just so ignorant and inconsiderate!  Maybe they will send you one, but from the sound of the type of couple they are, they probably won’t.

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